I've been married to my hubby for a year now..........the whole time we've been together neither of us have been practicing any religion. I am a non-practicing catholic and his mom raised him Jehovah's witness for a couple of years but he was never baptized. Now out of nowhere he tells me he is thinking about converting later on...........what the hell am I supposed to say to that? How do I deal with this because I know it will not work out if he does?
2006-08-29 17:10:53 · 13 answers · asked by ♥ Arvizu16 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why wouldn't it work out?
Just be honest when you talk to him about it, but beforehand, sit down and think about what you feel and why you feel that way... and here's some advice I got from the Mormons: before you join ANY church, go around and visit ALL the churches. Your husband was raised JW, but he may really be more of a methodist or a baptist or even a catholic like you...
but why wouldn't it work out?
2006-08-29 17:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ether 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are aware that you married a person? People change, they do not stay the same. He wants to convert to what? At any rate, marriage can be a minefield, there's always something blowing up in your face. Surely you knew there would be problems that come up?
You'll either have to learn to handle the tough things or bow out quickly. Excuse my blunt speaking, but those are the only two choices.
2006-08-30 00:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by Esther 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This should not break your marriage. This is the time you start acting like a married couple and solve the situation together. Starting looking for the truth together it might not be either religion. No one ever wants to put forth the effort anymore.
2006-08-30 00:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by fyrechick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i am an agnostic who married a fundamentalist christian. We avoided these issues becaus ei was very upfront about my religious beliefs VERY early in our relationship.
If he does go full blown jehovah, at least you wont have to buy him anything for christmas. Just tell him you really don't care about his spirituality and in all honesty religion shouldn;t effect your relationship so long as you both actually love each other.
2006-08-30 00:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by thehotdogbun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A married person who sincerely dedicates himself to do God's will as a Jehovah's Witness will become a better spouse. He might not do everything that his unbelieving spouse might prefer, but his renewed godliness will bring real blessings to a Christian marriage.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/library/w/1999/2/15/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2003/9/15/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/5/8a/article_01.htm
2006-08-30 14:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know it will not work out if he converts then your marriage will probably not last anyway. He is going to have different ideas than you.
2006-08-30 00:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by gumby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why and then explain that you think the two of you will do fine being spiritual without a religion.
2006-08-30 00:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why wouldn't it work out? I think you have a negative spirit going into this. if you really love him this should not affect your relationship badly, you should be happy for him that he found somthing that fullfills a need that has cropped up in him.
2006-08-30 00:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by No More No Less 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get used to going door to door bothering people.
2006-08-30 00:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by Devil'sadvocate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a good dose of internet provided wisdom:
http://www.skepticsannotatedbible.com/
http://whywontgodhealamputees.com/
http://godisimaginary.com/
2006-08-30 00:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by John S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋