Is it bad if your bf always wants to know where you are and who your with and is always suspicious of you?

Question

i just wanna know what i should do to convince him that i would never cheat on him and i don't want to lose him so don't say i should break up with him please.

Answer 1

Yes. It is a sign that he is controlling. Look for other signs. Does he complain about the way you dress? (Even though he liked it when he met you!) Does he get jealous of time you spend on the phone, studying, working?

If you're answering yes, then dump him now.

Answer 2

It is bad, this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship at all. Explain to him that his jealousy is really killing the relationship, & if it doesn't stop then it will be over. A relationship is built on trust, & when that trust is gone, it's all very hard!

Showing him how much you think of him or love him in front of others is always a good way of calming insecurities. I don't mean not leaving his side or smothering him.

From my past experience, boyfriends who are jealous, don't usually change... or boyfriends in general don't change, anyway if it keeps going on, for any more than 2 weeks a month, I think you should break up with him hun, you can't keep going through life with the stress of a jealous boyfriend, when you should be out there having fun! Whatever happends, good luck

Answer 3

Oh boy! Yes, it's bad. Secondly, you CANNOT convince him because he's insecure. He must handle his inner issues first on his own. The whole "I don't want to lose him" mentality could be your downfall also. You must be willing to lose a man who is not in a healthy place in life. The fact that he always wants to know where you are is unacceptable.

And here's the kicker: What does it say about you that you are willing to tolerate this?

Honestly, this shows that you are unhealthy as he is. I suggest to break it off and that both of you work on your issues or you'll just repeat this cycle with someone else.

Rod Cortez

Answer 4

Well, it is apparent that he has issues with trusting people. This probably means that he either A) has been cheated on and it hurt him badly, or B) has a habit of cheating on the people he is with and wants to know what his time limits are so he knows what he can or cannot do, or C) is one of those people who feels that they have to be in control of every situation, no matter what the situation may be, or D) worries about your well being so much that he wants to know where you are so that he can get to you as soon as possible.

Answer 5

If you can't convince your boyfriend to trust you- then you're stuck, because you never will. A real, loving relationship- is based on trust. You don't have that- if he doesn't trust you. Now if you're not strong enough to put your foot down & demand his respect on that matter- then he's going to continue to mop the floor with you- & then you're going to lose EVERYONES respect. And NO boyfriend is worth THAT. So the choice is yours. And the sooner you choose- the sooner you'll find happiness with he right person. Good luck!

Answer 6

There's probably nothing you can do to convince him you'd never cheat. He sounds controlling and maybe a bit insecure about your relationship in general.
I divorced someone like that 20 years ago. He wasn't like that BEFORE we married, gradually afterwards. He wouldn't even let me drive 'his' car. I had to take 2 busses and the subway to get to work. He suddenly disliked my family. I had to give him my paycheck each week and he'd give me my 'allowance'. I NEVER gave him one single reason not to trust me. We went to a New Years Eve party, we left at 11:45 because someone that once had a crush on me showed up! That was the last straw....
Guess what he did? HE cheated on ME and married her 2 weeks after divorce was final!

Answer 7

Sounds like he's pretty controlling. But to A your Q, YES it's bad. Not healthy @ ALL. Was he alwayz like this ? Or did this just happen recently ? If it just happened recently then he prob thinks that you're cheating on him. Did he tell you that he thinks that you're cheating ? You shouldn't have to tell him where you are or who you're w/. It'll prob just get worse. Sounds kinda like stalking to me... If he abuses you in any way (emotionally, verbally or physically) get out... NOW !!! You should NOT have to put up w/ that bs !!!

Answer 8

Whose computer did you send this from? Was it his? Huh? Did you steal his password? Who is he sending email to on the sly behind your back?

Why did you post this question? One of your girlfriends is behind this, isn't she? How come you're not spending time with him instead? Did you want him to see this question and feel guilty? Do your parents know about this? How about his? What are you hiding from us? C'mon, be straight with us. Fess up. What's going on?

{Now, if I told you I wrote the above answer because I loved and cared for you, what would you think? That's what I thought! So, do you really think what HE is doing is love?}

Answer 9

To be honest I acted this way to my boyfriend because I loved him so much and I was afraid of loosing him. I was always worrying about what he was doing. I guess I was just insecure with myself. The only thing that helped me was going to counciling cause my boyfriend told me over and over he couldnt take it anymore and I was too stupid too listen. He ended up breaking up with me, I went to couciling and everything is working out now. He needs to trust you or it wont work out.

Answer 10

Don't get sucked into that. Jealousy like that has no place in a relationship. I just got out of a marriage for the same reason. I got tired of the accusations. You can do better than him. And trust me on this one. It always gets worse.