I found my ex after not seeing my ex for 4 years that relationship was my very first relationship. We tryed the dating thing one more time and my ex was more preoccupied with theyre friends all the time rather than me only seeing me once a week. I cheated on my ex with the person I am currently in a relationship with but the person I am with tends to get around alot and it really bothers me because I am afriad to give to much trust. My ex says they want to be with me but I no unless I leave this current relationship they wont fully open up to me and I honestly feel like I can have something a little better with my ex but I dont think the ignoring me will change for the friends. I am just not sure if i should leave a relationship I am comfotable with for one I will have alot of uncertanties in.
2006-08-29 16:51:49 · 10 answers · asked by Just Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My dear you've answered your own question. Have you read that story from Aesop fables? One in hand is better than two in a bush! You've already got something in hand that assures you comfort then why get distressed and confused over something that has a lot of uncertainties? Adventure is fine but not brashness and definitely not in relations and things concerning the heart. Bash on regardless with what you have and be happy.
2006-08-29 17:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pat Wardhan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to address what your issues really are. Is it with your first boyfriend and the lack of attention he gave you, or is it that you are afraid of commiting?
Before you do anything, you need to talk with your current boyfriend. You need to tell him what is bothering you and what scares you in a relationships. Act like an adult and don't blame your boyfriend.
Your ex abused your trust to the point that you cheated; are you willing to cheat on your current boyfriend to go back to a guy who didn't treat you the way you wanted to be treated? That seems to be reverse of what you want. I'm sure your ex is a "great" guy, but you broke up with him for a reason. Those same peeves are STILL going to be there.
Don't fall into the stereotype of "once a cheater, always a cheater." Don't take away the trust of your current boyfriend.
2006-08-29 23:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think that you should leave the both of them, because if they not doing what's right now that are not going to do it now, and you deserve much better than that. Please don't settle for less we woman are worth more than that. Men have a problem with opening up. But there are men who does. You just have to be patient, and you don't have to have a man right now. My advice is to wait and the right one will come. I have waited one year and a half and the right one is here. Its best to be by yourself, hang out with friends and take care of yourself, put yourself first and figure out what you want, then venture out into dating. But if you must feel like you need someone, choose with your heart and mind. But remember what the ex did and then boyfriend #2 is a player definitely a no no in my book, that's saying its ok for men to treat us like that and its not ok by any means. So I say pick neither. pick yourself you are number one!
2006-08-30 00:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Reesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand.
You are seeing someone that you do not trust. Your ex is someone that you do not trust.
The only option I see is the one of finding someone that you do trust - that isn't "getting around a lot".
You are limiting yourself to two non-choices, neither of which are healthy for you.
2006-08-29 23:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't fall for it because your ex shoulda had their stuff together the first time. stay with the one your with.
2006-08-29 23:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by KEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punctuation is nice. but definitely go for the one you are most comfortable with and/or the one that makes you the most happy.
2006-08-29 23:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Dope boy magic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bail out of everything and start again
2006-08-29 23:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by teef_au 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULD REALLY THINK ABOUT EVERYONE IN THIS SITUATION. AND IF YOU FEEL THAT YOU NEED TO CHOSE'THEN MAYBE YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH
BOTH OF THEM AND LET THEM KNOW WHAT REALLY GOING
ON WITH YOU. THEN YOU WILL SEE WHAT YOU NEED TO
DO.
2006-08-29 23:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the one that treats you the best all round !
2006-08-29 23:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by rottentothecore 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
follow your heart
2006-08-29 23:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by yo-yo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋