ok me and this girl has bin hanging out for 2 or 3 mounths we basacally have bin going out that hole time but not offically just sence sunday the 27. when i say we bacically have bin going out i mean that ive had feelings for her. and she calls everyday and we go out and just spend time with eachother doing really nothing just spending time with eachother to be wiht eachoteher. we ushally go down bu the river and just talk and flurt with eachother. and i know some of you will say that you cant love someone when you have bin going out with them for 3 days but when your abslute best friends and dont really hide anything from eachother and you know that there not just a friend then... i know that i love her... but im afraide of moving too fast i think thats what happend with my ex. is there any signs i can look for or anything like that to let me know that she loves me back and she wont be "scared off" by me saying that i love her???
2006-08-29 16:43:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Rush or you will be lateeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
2006-08-29 16:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by prince 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't say it too soon. Like, don't say it in the next few wks... Shortly after I started going out w/ my then-bf, he said the L word. It was kinda a turn-off for me cuz I was thinking, "Yeah... right," cept I didn't say it. So if you tell her too soon, then she may feel the same way & be like, "There's no way that he could possibly love me so soon." Even if it HAS been 2 or 3 "mounths" that you've been hanging out. I'd say not to say it for a min of @ LEAST another 3 mos or so. Cuz some peeps have fallen in love in that amount of time. 'Sides, you were hanging out w/ her for 2-3 mos. 2+3 more mos = 5 mos. OR, 3+3 more mos = 6 mos. Since you pretty much were going out the whole time.
I wish that my bf woulda asked me out instead of us just being in a rel all of a sudden... Don't forget that date. Mark it on your cal. Twice I was in rels where no one asked each other out... It just happened. You'll wanna be able to celebrate your anniversaries :) Besides, if she has it marked down on her cal she'll be happy that you know the exact date too :)
Oh yeah, bout what the guy said above me, do NOT say "me too." That is just lame !!! Say "I love you too."
2006-08-29 23:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to those girls before me.. they know not what they speak. You can never trust a girl's opinion when it comes to attracting girls. They will lead you to the wrong path.
* Don't say you love her until she say it to you.
* And if then, rarely say that 3 letter word unless you want to lose impact
* The more you display that she is your world, the more you encourage her to stop trying.
So, its really up to you how much you say it. I think you will be better off holding that emotion in, let her be confused and guessing. Never be predictable. One day.. display some affection, another.. act like you aren't interested.
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2006-08-29 23:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Guy w/ Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....your right, telling a girl you love her too soon can spoil the whole thing cos then she may think all you want is to get laid and will even stoop to telling her you love her to do it. i would say wait for a few more months, when the relationship is about 5- 6 months old is a good time to do it. but also make sure she loves you too cos otherwise it may be really embarrassing for you and she will always use it to blackmail you. as in --"but i though t you loved me' -- untill you take her out to that chick fllick...:)
2006-08-30 00:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different, and reacts differently. Go with your heart, if it knows it's way, follow it, waiting too long could be just as bad as telling a person too soon, it all depends on your relationship, only you know what is going on.
2006-08-29 23:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw that. let her say it first and then say something like..yeah, me too.
women dont want that mushy **** or a guy who dwells on this crap.
just being honest. if i thought that way, my girl would wonder if i was a man.
dont be so damn mushy and wear your heart on your sleeve. man up. have dignity and let her deal with the "sentimental" B.S.
2006-08-29 23:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by deleted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love doesn't know time. It happens when it happens.
Tell her, and if she "runs" it probably wasn't meant to be...
I'd learn how to spell-check first.
2006-08-29 23:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by Skiingred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not been to bed with her, then don't say it yet. Simple. Don't get in any hurry.
2006-08-29 23:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will know when the time is right...follow your heart it will guide you
2006-08-29 23:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by patricia_hyland72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you feel like your ready.
2006-08-29 23:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by KEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋