well, i don't. just wondering because i am 19 and my boyfriend is 21. we have a healthy relationship, and have been together for a year. we have never cheated on anyone, and we work together, go home together... there has not been a time for the past few months that we have not seen each other, except when he goes to a different aisle at a store or in the bathroom at a store.. and we are very mature people. now some of my family, who are christian, believe it is wrong only because they are christian. they think we should get married immediatley. i do not care if you are christian and do not agree, i know most will not. but i was curious to know those who don't commit to a faith or religion, if you still think it is wrong and why... also, i believe sex is a very beautiful and healthy thing. some people are not whores but they are very sexual people.. and they practice safe sex. they of course are not married, and i do not think this is wrong either..
2006-08-29 16:29:36 · 22 answers · asked by hey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i believe america is rediculous when it comes to sex sometimes. other countries are more relaxed about it.
2006-08-29 16:30:09 · update #1
to louann... we do love each other, very much. we have been with each other almost 24 hours, counting sleeping, and have been together for a year without getting tired of each other..when we argue its not arguing, its discussing our side.. and we love each other more every day...
2006-08-29 17:00:48 · update #2
oh and just for details.... i am not christian, so christian rules do not apply to me.. its not my belief.. the same that jews do not believe jesus will come back.. or buddhists don't believe in jesus.. will you argue with them?
2006-08-29 17:03:43 · update #3
i completely agree with u, however there are cases when sex can be a bad thing. im my opinion is guys are being asses and jerks and just jumping from one girl to another or girls are disrespecting themselves by sleeping with one man and another, then somethings wrong. but in ur case, i think its great. i completly disagree with the idea that u have to be married to spend the rest of ur life with the pne person u love or that u cant have sex until ur married. a ceremony or a piece of paper that reads "marriage certificate" isnt going to prove how much u love a person. the only thing that can prove how much u love someone is how much time u spend together, are with each other, and how healthy ur relationship is with that person. if ur having sex becuz u really love that person and its ur way of showing personall love and affection then there should be nothing wrong with what ur doing. so for me, ur ok. hope this helps, take care
2006-08-29 16:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all! 5 years difference is nothing bro, i'm in a similar situation im 23 and met this 17 year old online about 5 months ago and we haven't met yet but we want to meet each other we have been chatting and we will start talking on the phone soon and texting via cell phones I only talked to her twice over the phone but we really liking each other now and I feel like it's not bad that we have 6 years difference I live in Illinois where the age of consent is 17 so it's not legal to date and have sex with 17 year old but i still feel like people might see it as wrong but i say the hell with them is what we want and what we feel and you never know this girl could be the girl for me you know like she seems like the right girl and i could really see myself with her and same with you that girl could be the right girls for you. I say go meet her I think it's been a while already 8 months you don't want to wait too long she might end up loosing interest or might meet someone or same with you and there goes what might of been something good.... just don't let it pass you by your not doing anything wrong i say follow your gut and don't care if other people think it's wrong it's your life and your heart that your dealing with! go for it and meet with her already!!!
2016-03-27 00:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kathryn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, to me it seems u have such a good and healthy family. Others neva had the opportunity to be advised. if i were u i would listen to my family since they are religious and know what is right. Sex before marriage is very wrong and the Bible is against it. You are only 19 and have a long way to go.If u r ready for sex then go marry.Sex is not all u can get in life, there are better opportunities waiting for u somewhere. If this guy really loves u he would neva have sex with u at this time. Bear in mind he ain't going to marry u, he is only using u, fufilling his sexual desires. Later in life he will ditch u and go in for someone else. Pls listen to ur parents and family members cos they've been there done that.And also if u r not ready for any advice why did u bring it up. Anyway. 'a stitch in time save nine'
2006-08-29 16:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by hen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I don't think its wrong because I believe relationships is 50% emotional like how you guys get along and the other half is physical like how you guys feel when you have sex, you don't want to be married and have sex for the first time and not enjoy it. An example is I was dating someone and we were engaged and then one time we were talkling about moving in together and all that but before we actually did we had sex and I found out sexually I'm not attracted to him and thats something very important if your not sexually attracted to your partner you will be looking in other ways, I'm not saying I did. I had a talk with him and expressed my feelings and I had to end that relationship.
2006-08-29 18:33:11 · answer #4 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl I'm 19 and my bf is 23 and we Live together we have been for almost 6 months! I don't think its wrong to have sex b4 you are married! I hope this helps in a way and of course people is going to say its wrong but u have to look over them and see the love you both share! How are you going to know if the Marriage is going to work unless you try it out u Know! I hope this helps
~Kimberly
2006-08-29 16:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe strongly that one should live with their partner before marrying. Living together is different than dating, no matter how close you are now. You need to live together to see if there is compatibility in addition to the love you have. As a Christian, your greatest responsibility to God is to raise your future children well. Making sure you and your future husband can get along under the same roof is a big part of that.
2006-08-29 16:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Hypocrite Hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your mature enough you can live together. If you have been dating for some time. But don't rush into it unless you are ready to committ to each other. Some live together for years, and end up getting married and some don't. Just make sure you don't get pregnate and feel this would trap you both into some thing your not ready for.. It is your lifes and good luck Pem
2006-08-29 16:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you not married? That is the only thing I would want to know. Do you eventually want to be married? Does He? I think I made a huge mistake living with my first huband before we were married. Now I am 36 and BF is 29 and we live together. But not to sopund hypocritical I think its different at this age.
2006-08-29 16:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've decided to be in a committed relationship, the only thing marriage does is give you a document that says you're married. God doesn't care if you have a marriage license or not, he cares about your love and commitment to one another.
Don't worry about what other people think. Do what you know is right in your heart. It's not like this is a casual relationship.
2006-08-29 16:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard many people say they don't need a piece of paper to be committed to a relationship --- funny, those same people have more of a commitment to the mortgage company than they do with the person who shares their bed!
A friend of mine once said: "I'm not spending years being a man's personal maid, provide sex and possibly enduring child birth for a guy who doesn't want me for his wife.... my heart isn't for sale that cheap yet."
2006-08-29 16:38:52 · answer #10 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋