Is it impossible to distinguish lust and love for a couple who just begin dating?

Answer 1

I had the same problem with my girlfriend, I mean in the beginning my love for her was pure, all about her, but well I let my guy feelings take control of me without me realizing it, I started to love her body(especially her breasts), more than I did anything else about her. I mean she knew it and loved me so much that she was willing to accept the fact that I just love her because of her body. But well something bad happened because of it, and well we stopped talking for about a week. For that week I tried to figure out what went wrong, and well I started to remember past IM's and such. I realized that I was lusting over her rather than loving her, and I focused more about what I want, then what she wants, it was just really f*cked up. I was such a total as* and perv. I said I was sorry to her so many times, each time she told me to not worry about it. And the only thing is that she needs to really think about all that. And well to make a long story short, things between us haven't been the same since that day. We hardly talk, maybe once a week in an IM. I e-mail her less because she tells me that she never has time to read any of them, so I figure what's the point. So well I had to cut down on it anyways, because I feel like I'm coming on to strong to her. And well at random times I feel like our relationship could end at any moment, simply by her sending me a break up e-mail. Which always makes me so scared and sad just to think about it. So well yeah believe me stay with the love side, no mater what. You don't want to end up like me. I love my girlfriend with all my heart. I would do anything to fix what I did wrong, so that right now she and I would be alot closer and she would enjoy being with me and talking to me, just like it used to be. But well I ruined it between us, and I have to accept the consequences and the fact that one day she might choose to not want to deal with this anymore. And I would have no right to object since I was the one to bring this upon myself. I regret it each and ever day. I get tempted to do her the favor and just let myself die, but I made a promise to her, even though things have gotten really rough between us, I promised her that I would be here for her no matter what. And that I would do my best to stay alive as long as I can. She may or may not want me around anymore, but I made that promise to her, and I have to keep it. I love her and I need to be here for her, whether she wants me to or needs me to or not. So well I mean when I do finally talk to her I know she loves me, but well my friends are really spying on us, and they are making up stories that she is cheating on me, and that she has blocked all my accounts, along with making up excuses each week to not talk to me. I know it's not true, she loves me, but well I sometimes fall prone to their lies, it's really hard to figure out what's going on anymore

See how much chaos came out of lust over love, instead of love all the way. So well take my advice, don't ever get lost in the lust of a girl. Only leads to trouble

Answer 2

I wouldn't say it's impossible, but if you just began dating, I wouldn't think you have much to go on. How well do you know this person? Is he/she all you can think about? When you look into his/her eyes, do feel as though your souls connected? Do you feel like you can't breathe when you're away from each other? Would you die for this person?

If you answered yes to any of those, than you may very well be falling in love. If not, and this relationship is just a game to you, or you don't really see it going anywhere, than it's just lust. If you don't feel like this person is going to be a part of your future, then it's all about sex right now.

Answer 3

No it is not impossible but difficult. Hormones have a way of deluding one's judgements.

True Love I believe, is the feeling of wanting the other person to be happier than you are... doesnt mean we dont want to be happy, just means we want the other person to be even happier. It's not just about Giving and Taking, its also about Receiving and Sharing.

Lust is wanting to satisfy one's craving with total disregard for the other person's feelings and moods.

When desires make both parties feel wonderful and happy it is an expression of loving feelings. When only ONE party feels it, it is no more about giving and taking, its just about taking what I Want, what I Need and who cares if you dont feel like it...