Great kid, Gets lots of love from everyone, Maybe he likes mom and boyfriend to disagree? I just want to help. Mom gives in and sometimes there will no punishment.
2006-08-29 16:25:44 · 8 answers · asked by SamE 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
There is no sense punishing him. It will make whatever is wrong worse. His adults need to find out, first, if he has a medical problem, and get it tended to if he has. If no medical problem, they need to find out what's stressing him and making him regress and fix that. They're the adults, it's their responsibility. If he's being punished for something he can't help, of course he lies; what else can he do at his age?
2006-08-29 16:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some kids regress lik ethis because they are just too busy or interested in things going on to stop and use the potty so they hold it until it's too late.
Since the parental group sounds like a good match and the kids is loved My guess is he has just gotten to that stage where he is so interested he can't or wont suspend playing or TV watching to go to the bathroom.
My daughter did this as well around the same age and we didn't yell or punish but we did remind her that she needed to use the bathroom and began reassurring her she wouldn't miss anything by stopping to use the potty. We then started to ask frequently if she had to go or asked her to go and try instead of waiting after a few weeks the accidents completly stopped.
I agree punishing does not work well at all as the child is too young to understand why its wrong or exactly why he is being punished. Calmly addressing the fact they must use a potty and simple reasons why work best. Try explaining to him about germs or it could make him sick i.e. burining when he potties if he fails to use the bathroom and continues to wet his pants. A rash or bladder infection is a likely result and most kids understand the result of owie's if they go potty in their pants.
2006-08-29 16:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't punish the child for what is obviously a nervous habit. Four year olds don't want to wet their pants any more than you want them to, trust me!
Perhaps he needs more focused, alone time with his mom to shore up his little ego and stabilize his little world. With some understanding and a little grace (that's the habit of refusing to notice when someone has done something embarrassing) he should be able to overcome this problem in a few weeks.
The more attention it gets, especially if it is accusatory or negative, the longer the problem will persist.
2006-08-29 16:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like there's something he's pretty unhappy about. Perhaps he doesn't even know what it is, but it's something about his mother's relationship. Just wait it out. Don't make a big fuss; let him know that no-one's happy about the wet pants, but also, no-one's going to make a big fuss about it so there is no negative reward. When it happens, just casually tell him to go get changed, and make him wash the wet clothes in a bucket and hang them up to dry. Don't make a fuss either way.
Punishment isn't appropriate. Consequences are. The consequence for wetting your pants is you have to wash them and get them dry. That's all. You don't get extra attention for having done it. He will stop when he can't be bothered washing his clothes anymore. Keep casual about it.
2006-08-29 16:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let's see... the child has parents who are not together. His mom is already dating another man, so there's separation anxiety. Mother is inconsistent in her discipline, and the child is too young to be able to tell the adults how he's feeling.
What to do? Tell the mother to stop being someone's girlfriend and start focussing on BEING A MOTHER for a change.
2006-08-29 16:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is doing one of two things. He is seeking negative attention, which is better than no attention. Or, he is angry and this is his one way of controlling the few things in life he can.
Sit down somewhere neutral with him like a park (place where he feels safe) and talk to him. And could it be that someone has molested him and he is yelling at the world to listen?
2006-08-29 16:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"they need to find out what's stressing him" -- silver.graph
My guess is it is the fact that mommy is giving attentino to another male. Maybe a wierd Edopus (it is really late and my spelling is just off someone correct me) Complex. In which case keep your sphinixes away from the boy for your son's sake o.O
2006-08-29 16:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Icon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
might be jealous about new person in his moms life
2006-08-29 16:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋