is this something that can be fixed
2006-08-29 16:07:39 · 21 answers · asked by sasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It can be fixed. Long term relationships go through cycles, and you can work through and move to the next stage, and find that attraction again.
A lot of people who have been married several times just get out of each marriage on that first "down" cycle, and just repeat the pattern over and over.
2006-08-29 16:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. That's a real shame. I hope someone can offer you real good advice as all I can offer is just a weak suggestion; can you deal with being with the man you love even if you're not sexually attracted to him? If yes, then maybe you can try to help him become more of what you're looking for. I'm not saying become controlling and make him do things, but what girlfriend hasn't dragged their boyfriend to go clothes shopping from time to time and even nag them about a hair cut here and there? Or is that just me.....? lol I'm not sure what it is about him that you're not attracted to, but maybe if you go about it with some finesse you can change things at least a little.
2006-08-29 23:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There needs to be a certain chemistry between two people in order to be sexually attracted. If that chemistry is lost or has never been, i don't believe it is something that can be fixed.
2006-08-29 23:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. It's not a true love relationship if there isn't sexual chemistry for BOTH partners. Good love includes good sex. There is someone out there u can have both with, so don't waste your time, it goes by too fast!
2006-08-29 23:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is overrated, first of all. you can't build a lasting relationship base on sex alone. i should know, i was with my ex for 10 years...the only thing good abt it was sex....coz i thought at the time that sex was very important to me and i can overlook everything else...WRONG!! after 10 years, even with the mind boggling sex...it couldn't fix everything that was going wrong. we ended up breaking up...so to make the story short...sex...great sex..mind boggling sex cannot hold a relationship together. i believe that anything can be fix, and my suggestion is, talk to your partner and mayb can do something abt sprucing up your sex life. if you love him already, it shouldn't be too hard to be sexually attracted to him. i hope this makes sense.
2006-08-29 23:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by simkhristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be in love with someone who you are not attracted to? Love and attraction go together. Can you sleep with some one you are not attracted to. I can't. Find someone who you are attracted to that you do love. You will feel a whole lot happier.
2006-08-29 23:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by rkb12584 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is important in a relationship and i can't be in love with someone who i don't find sexually attractive so if i'm not attracted to my partner, i'll dump her and look for attractive partners. cheers!
2006-08-30 02:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never heard of such a thing. Honey, love without sexual attraction is what you feel for your Granny. You have a "I love you like family" thing going on not a "you're my man" kind of thing.
2006-08-29 23:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound to me like it may be a hormonal issue. Are you sexually attracted to someone else? If you are then I don't know what to tell you other than seek help from a professional.......
2006-08-29 23:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Chief 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think about someone else or ask if you can have sex with someone else but be emotionally only you rpartners. hey it woirks if your partner is open to it. they might already know they are ugly. plus being truthful and making them happy will prove that they are the one that you love.
2006-08-29 23:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by ticas1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋