The thing is, I've been hanging around this guy who is probably one of the nicest guys I've ever met. He's shy, tall, super athlete and gorgeous. He broke up with this girl he was kind of going out with before and I broke up with my boyfriend of one year so we could be together. He is a really kind guy, so he didn't want me to hurt my old boyfriend, but I did anyways since it was about time. Anyways, we talk on IM every night and on the phone and hang out a lot. I Went away for a month this summer to New York and he was at home for most of his vacation. WE kept in touch by email and I offered to stay up late so we could talk together on messenger but he was a gentleman and said I didnt have to. The thing is, he was really kind the whole time until after I got back and checked my email I found an email from him saying stuff like I dont think we should be together, I hope you know what I'm saying and that you're not mad or depressed. I hope we can be friends but nothing more than that.
2006-08-29 16:05:28 · 31 answers · asked by SUNSHINE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me see if I follow this correctly. You broke up with your boyfriend so that you could be with him. Now he just wants to be friends.
Wow, were you taken in for a ride. He got what he wanted, and is letting you go. Even if you didn't have sex, I'm sure there was a purpose of stringing you along.
No guy is that perfect. Shy, tall, gorgeous, athletic, sounds like he may be stuck on himself and knows how to play games with women. All the "gentleman" was an act. Move on and forget this player.
Maybe talk to your old boyfriend again. Since the two of you were together for so long, he may forgive you. If not, then find a new one. There are a million of them out there, and not all are scum like this guy.
2006-08-29 16:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say, but a possibility would be that he probably thinks that if the two of you got together, you might dump him for someone else like you did your ex. Another possibility could be that he might've only just liked you as only a friend to begin with, or maybe he did like you and the way you're giving him the red carpet treatment (like staying up late for him, breaking up with your boyfriend, etc.) might feel a little intimidating to him (if that makes sense). But I don't know, every guy is different. Since you two seem so close though, maybe you should ask him about it. I don't think it was right of him to tell you that in an e-mail though. A real man would tell you face to face so you can have your say in it too. Another thing could be that he might think he's not good enough for you, he may think you deserve someone better. If he wants to be just friends though, it's better than nothing at all, and he may even decide to go out with you later on then. He's probably the kind of guy that wants to be friends first before getting into a relationship, and there's nothing wrong with that. I hope things work out for you, and hope I was of some help. =) *hugz* (just thought you might need one =))
2006-08-29 16:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Punky Brewster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, he's made a decision, and the best thing that you can do is to accept it. You can't force him to change his mind or his heart. I know how much it hurts, I'm sort of going through that myself, but the more we cling, the further away we push a person, and then we lose the chance to even be a friend. Anyway, if you give him some time and space, he just might miss you, and come back. Or you just might find you don't miss him as much as you thought. Good luck, Sweetie!
2006-08-29 16:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Blue_eyed_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy perspective. Women are so full of themselves these days. It's sick. Just because you are beautiful and smell good and have all the lastest fashion, you think the man should be satisfied. You don't cook or don't cook well. Men will always fall for the woman that cooks. What makes women think that we changed because you ladies are so powerful now. We still love food, beer,sports and great sex. We are the simplest creatures to please and women are so stubborn or so full of themselves that they can't seem to get it. Great sex means....get a bloody book if you have to. You are quick to get a bridal magazine. Get a book on great sex moves for yo man or sumthin. The grass is always going to look greener on the other side to men. It's reality. He saw something he wanted and went after it. It's like this. You really like him, but if you had met a multimillionaire...he would be hearing you say..."sorry, I really love him". Get over yourself. You are not exempt from being played. NO ONE IS EXEMPT. It's call life. Move on. Hell. Call me. I will be good to ya.
2006-08-29 16:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by oopsIfeelnlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the past
everyone has a story of what went wrong in school, job, relationship etc. it's human nature.
like presents?
maybe this will help you out if would you like to get a present today.
the past is history
the future is mystery
the gift is always in the moment.
that is why it is called the present.
live and be the best you can be in this present moment of your life and great things will happen. you deserve that. don't you?
2006-08-29 16:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by getit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so whats the problem?
maybe he figured out that you are not really the kind of girl that anyone should date because you will dump a guy for no reason other than to be with another guy, so maybe he realized that you would eventually dump him to be with someone else and he didn't want to be involved in that, sounds like something i would do.
2006-08-29 16:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have proof he actually broke up with his girlfriend, maybe he did and got back with her, at the same time didnt want to hurt your feelings....I wouldnt personally do that to someone, but it sounds like something a typical male would do.
2006-08-29 16:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by Guido32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in a serious courting now with my fiance, I do have an charm to a distinct woman, yet i proceed to be dependable to my fiance, some men would act on that different woman and 'cheat' yet i assume its purely how i became raised to be dependable
2016-12-05 22:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too bad your story started out really nice but it sounds like he's with someone else and is trying not to hurt your feelings.I think you're gonna have to move on.
2006-08-29 16:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A coward he is for not telling you face-to-face. Sounds as if he might have someone new...perhaps met her while you were in New York.
It is up to you to decide if you want to continue on with the friendship or not.
2006-08-29 16:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋