You noticed that your guys is being distant. You asked him why, he said things are going too fast (which is a big BS). You told him he just have to say it instead of doing that pulling-away act. So you took it all in as he is already on his way out. Fine. So why did he call you twice a week after? Courtesy call out of guilt?
2006-08-29 16:02:19 · 7 answers · asked by RedColette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like there's a communication flaw in there.
What you two need to do is to sit down like two adults and discuss it. Was he being distant, or were you being clingy? Are you going to fast, and if so, what can be done to correct it.
It doesn't sound like you two broke up at all. You assumed he was finished, even though he may have just needed a breather. Remember that although you are/were a couple, you each need to be independent too.
His calling shows that he DOES care, and that he DOESN'T necessarily mean that the relationship is over. If have any questions, ask him. He's the one who has the answers.
2006-08-29 16:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had a guy call me after a year and a half of not calling. We broke up because he thought things were moving too fast. He wants to try things again. It's an excuse. They're not ready for a relationship and they wanna be single.
2006-08-29 16:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by Medina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he enjoyed being with you and still enjoys being with you, but things were getting too serious too quickly? (just as he'd said) There are a lot of people that live in the now and only the now, he may be one of them. Possibly you love being with him now but often talk about tomorrow with him and to a 'now' person that can really scare them off. Didn't see you asking for advice on how to get back with him, so I won't go there. So if you don't want to be with him then I guess just move on? Accept his friendship as he offers it if you want to, but stop worrying about the romantic aspects of your relationship with him as they're in the past.
2006-08-29 16:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Do you want this guy or not?
Guys do a familiar-then-distant thing all the time anyway. If you call them on it, they'll stammer out anything that sounds plausible, hoping it will satisfy you.
A man whose feelings are settled and steady is rare. Few achieve that level of maturity.
2006-08-29 16:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is really hard to read, given the really bad grammar and all... however, why can't you respect the fact that he said things were going to fast? Maybe they were for him, even if they weren't for you. Did you ever consider that? Maybe he called you because he missed you, but things can't really go that fast over the phone.
2006-08-29 16:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by rccola1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex said almost the same thing but he's the one who wanted to in the first place. And he thought I was going to rape him.Isn't that the stupidest thing u have ever heard in your life? Good luck.He is afraid he doesn't have the balls to stick up for himself don't worry about it.There are plenty of guys out there for all of us.
2006-08-29 16:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE NEVER MET A MAN THAT SAID WE'RE MOVIN TO FAST...
2006-08-29 16:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by KING NATE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋