aight so lately ive been goin through this stuff in my mind it seems like im goin to follow in the footsteps or end up just like my uncle. its been back and forth for the past couple of weeks and im worried that im stressin it too much. what i do is i try to be myself and just live and when i do that i think alot about things, i think about bad things that my uncles do that i see myself doing and ive pictured myself in each of their shoes and which ever one i think of is how it seems my life is going at that point.i try hard to get it off my mind but just the way i talk when im like this worries me, makes me worry that im turning into that person. i think of ideas that could be a reason for all this and ive come up with some crazy ones, i dont no wat to do ..can someone give some advice on what to do, and if ne one has been in my position...
2006-08-29 16:01:45 · 7 answers · asked by jete413 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Perhaps going to a therapist would help, they are trained to listen and to offer constructive advice to you.
But I have been somewhat the same situation in the past, I didn't want to become my mother, so I tried to mentally throw away the parts of her I didn't like, and keep the things I did. I loved my mother but I did not like her, she really wasn't a good person to me or most of her family. She was far more kind to strangers than anybody in the family.
I lean towards the pagan religions in my outlook, and there is a meditation that I do when something is getting the best of me. It works for me, it might work for you if you care to try it.
Close your eyes, and take a deep cleansing breath. See in your minds eyes yourself growing roots out your feet like a tree and follow those roots down deep into the ground until you see a dark flowing river at your feet. Stand there and write the name of your uncle on your forehead in your minds eye, Then visualize the word melting slowly down you face, dripping down your chin, sliding down your throat, onto your chest, sliding down your stomach, down your thighs, down your legs, down to your toes, and with a finally slide the words flows off your toes into the river and with a plop it flows off into the distance away from you, in the distance there is a faint glow as if a burning fire was burning there. YOu watch the name of your uncle get smaller and smaller until you can not see it any more. You take a another cleansing breath and you come back to the surface, feeling clean, and refreshed knowing he can not hurt you any more, nor effect you unless you want him to, if he does you can do this meditation again until he stays away from you forever.
2006-08-29 16:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are aware of your uncles' shortcomings and can see possibilities for yourself is a good sign. You are a sensitive person and don't want to get sucked into a life that you've seen. You are not crazy, nor are you destined to follow in your uncles' footsteps. My advice is that you get involved with some other people who live the kind of life you would like. Emulate them and find the part of you that relates to the good qualities you see. Focus ONLY on those things you want to become--even if you have to tell yourself "I am (successful, happy, responsible....whatever) 30 times at night before bed. Do it until you feel it is true. It'll work. Just remember--what you think about, you become. Good luck!
2006-08-29 16:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Helpful Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you must realize that you are your own person, an individual with a mind of your own. You do not need to be like anyone else or follow in their footsteps.
Make up your mind to be who and what you want to be!
Since you don't want to do the "bad" things that your uncles do, then just make up your mind that you don't have to do them - be your own person. How you live your life is up to you! I know that right now you think you can't divorce your self from them and their way of life. But believe me and in your self - you can, you must and you will!
2006-08-29 16:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the good thing is: you can analyze your behavior by comparing it to someone else's life. and even though their lives are not the most positive, you KNOW that and you can decipher between right and wrong!!! that is a start that will get you far. as long as you keep thinking about what you are doing before you do it, and as long as you question yourself like this (and imagine what your life COULD be like if you made the wrong decisions) I think you will be okay. Just pray about it, or if this is not your cup of tea...put yourself in their shoes and see how this can make a difference in your decisions. ]
Good luck
2006-08-29 16:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do they do that is so bad? Your life is what you make it. Everything happens because of the choices you make. So, if you're so intent on not becoming your uncles, then don't. Your life is up to you. No one can make you do things you don't want to. They can influence you, yes, but it's up to you to listen to your heart and do what you feel is right.
2006-08-29 16:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i want you to close your eyes and breathe...relax and take a break from all the stress! write it down on a journal to get rid of these feelings...ask for help...laugh...smile...good-luck
2006-08-29 16:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in control of your life, whether or not you believe it or not. You can do whatever you want and achieve whatever you want.
2006-08-29 16:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi Kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋