IF U R A GOOD FAMILY MAN THEN WHY?
2006-08-29 15:50:27 · 10 answers · asked by dilemma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I assume you are asking why your wife or girlfriend (assuming you have one or the other) would cheat on you if you were a good family man.
Well, my husband's family think he is a great family man - he is always working, working, working. . . .or so he says. Meanwhile, I also work a full time job, run the household, do all the parenting, take care of all the bill paying, groceries, laundry, cooking, etc., etc., etc. If I had any energy left, I might be out looking for someone who cared enough to be home once in a while and at least put on some sort of pretense that we were in some sort of partnership.
I am unhappy, I feel unappreciated, I feel overwhelmed with all the pressures I deal with and he is not there, physically or emotionally when I need him to be - not ever. That would be why I would cheat - but I don't and I won't, because I still love that guy and really would prefer to be with him than anything else I have seen.
2006-08-29 15:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you what I have learned from my own experience and the experience of other women that I have known who have cheated.
My reason: I was married to a man for a very long time who would not show me any affection at all. This began the minute we were married. We were married for 10 years. I asked him to go to counselling with me and he refused. He said to me...and I quote: I am happy with the way things are, so you should be happy too. End of story. I cheated because I was very lonely....you don't know how lonely lonely can be until you are in a marriage with no love or affection.
Other women have told me that they were missing something very vital in their marriage. One woman was controlled by her husband...to the point of not being able to make decisions on what type of peanut butter to purchase without his critisizing her.
Being a good family man does not make you a good husband, necessarily. I am not saying that you are not a good husband.
What I am saying is that women cheat for different reasons than men do. Men do it for the sex...for the variety....for the ego boost.
Women do it because we are trying to fill a void that is missing in our marriage.
2006-08-29 23:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The simplest reason is that she fell completely out of love.. She felt bored with your relationship because the 'spark' disappeared.. It could be that there is no more communication between the couple.
Whatever the reason is, there is something which is lost and she is looking for 'it', hoping that she can feel 'it' again (like what she felt before) but was unable to find it so she looked at other people to find it.. Most relationships which lost interest turn out this way.. That's why loyalty, trust, communication and interest are prime factors of a relationship.
2006-08-29 22:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are 5 reasons why wives (mates of either gender) cheat:
1) Lack of principles/morals
2) Self-esteem issues
3) Stress
4) Family background/genetics
5) People who crave attention (self-esteem issue)
You must be thinking I claim to be an expert but I am really not, I have just learned from my and other experiences the 5 reasons listed. I think it comes to your values. If monogamy is important to your wife, than she must not value herself to realize she is sabotaging a relationship with you. With someone with set principles couldn't do that to themselves or especially someone they love.
Alot of people say stress plays a factor like maybe you and your wife seldom see each other and she feels she needs someone else for attention. This is my opinion is a self-esteem problem. She doesn't believe she deserves your love so she's punishing herself by cheating.
*Family background-I think we are a product of our upbringing. So if her parents were in an unhealthy relationship she might do the same. However, there might be other reasons for it.
2006-08-29 23:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by ccas2200 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes cheating doesnt have anything to do with cheating. As my cousins are, she didnt have a reason. She said there was no reason at all, and by the time she ended it she lost everything that she loved. It's sad but true.
-ash
2006-08-29 22:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by ash223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look there is no excuse as to why people cheat. Usually it seems women do it when their not happy with the relationship. Have you been there for her emotionally and sexually. Do you listen to her, do you help around the house, with children ,etc? Women have needs too. Still if she wasnt happy she should have talked to you. Communication....
2006-08-29 22:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by dazzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My reason wasn't so emotional. It was an adrenaline rush. The possibility of getting caught, the thrill of the game. And, when you are forgiven and taken back, it is a pure power trip.
2006-08-30 00:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by CrazyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they have no reason to cheat unless they don't appreicate what they got and they are taking you for granted cause they know you won't do anything so wise up but if she cheated when youmeet her then what did you expect good luck
2006-08-29 22:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you cheated on her?
Are you thoughtful?
Are you boring?
Is she happy in bed?
Is she happy to see you?
Are you cute?
There are so many reasons.....the question is, what are you going to do about it.
2006-08-29 22:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they get bored with the same routine baby !!!!!!facts of life
2006-08-29 22:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by sandy k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋