PLEASE HELP!!!! I don't feel like I have adjusted to motherhood the way that I should have. My son is 1 1/12 yrs old and I take care of him and I am a pretty good mom I think but I never planned on having kids and I still don't feel like I was meant to have children. I love being a mom but I used to be wild before I got married and had my son. Does anyone else feel the same way...like you can't adjust to motherhood completely?
2006-08-29 15:46:35 · 6 answers · asked by mommy_2_little_man 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is a hard ajustment for some, you are trying your best and that is all that can be done. I respect you for doing all that you do and that you are doing all that you can even when you don't feel so up to it. I hope that with time you can start to feel more at ease with motherhood and that you can begin to not only cope and deal with the added stress of being a mommy but actually start to enjoy it!
Good luck
RR
2006-08-29 15:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's okay, you're normal. You are just not a soccer mom type! Nothing wrong with that! You can be just as good a mom or better than an "adjusted mom"! Keep your job and raise your son, you'll do fine. BTW - since you only have one, you can still have a little sports car! I have three and NEED a minivan! LOL!
Sometimes I long to be back at work and hanging out with friends, but I have three and can't. My time is always tied up. It wasn't like that when I just had my daughter. But this is what I chose, so I'm on the other side of the fence.
The grass isn't always greener for either of us. We just do things differently!
2006-08-29 20:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by LittleFreedom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's completely normal for some mothers to take a longer time to adjust. It's OK that you didn't plan on having kids. The point is is that you do now and it sounds like your adjusting great to me. As long as you're doing your best, and there is no abuse then you are doing great. Give yourself more credit, It's hard taking care of a child.
2006-08-29 15:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't have kids, but I wish my mom or step-fathers would have set the same example that they were preaching to us kids.
Kids don't listen to what adults say, so much as they watch what you do.
It's all about trust. And kids will test you.
One of my step fathers were a meth head when I was 15, --that's 17 years ago.
He was irritable coming down off his high, and I had just said something that he wasn't comfortable with hearing, and smacked me left and right across the face.
He told me he'd never lay a hand on me again.
Lier, Lier, Pants on Fire!!! ---Yeah, he did it again, and again.
This burnt the bridge.
I never told him the bridge was gone. It took years to rebuild it.
He still lies from time to time, though they are called exaggerations.
Sure, I've forgiven him, but I can't Totally trust someone like that.
2006-08-29 17:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey its normal. just because we are women does not mean we are suppose to automatically change into a boring a housewife. having a baby, getting married, compromising with another human being and your child for the rest of your life is challenging and sometimes scary. take one day at a time. i know mothers who party because they need to breathe. don't let mother hood stop you from having a little fun but remember you have to protect yourself from this crazy world so you can be around to see your child become successfull.
2006-08-29 16:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i adjusted but i didnt throw my fun away cuz i had a kid.....eather
2006-08-29 15:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by mommaof2girls&1onway 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋