2006-08-29 15:46:07 · 21 answers · asked by lil mama 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have a three year old son. The first thing to remember is that...well...he is only 3. You have to expect a little of this. "No" is every toddlers favorite word. At this age he is going to want some Independence from you. And just because he is not listening does not mean he is being defiant, toddlers have "selective hearing"
However you cannot allow him to disobey you either. Tell him once to do (or stop doing) whatever you want him to do/stop. If he does not acknowledge you or says "no" take his hand, get him to look at you say repeat yourself. Never get angry or lose your patience. Next step is a time out or corner time, last resort is a spanking.
2006-08-29 23:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is first to give him a verbal warning that you will not accept the behavior - crouch down to give this warning so that you are looking him in the eye. If he disobeys the warning then again come down to his level, tell him you are not okay with the behavior and that he will be put on "the naughty stool" (or wherever you put him for time out ) for three minutes. 1 minute for each year of age. Don't hover over him - but do make sure that he stays on the stool. If he consistently gets up - calmy put him back without talking to him until he has completed three minutes. Then come onto his level again and explain to him why he was on the "naughty stool" and ask for an apology.
2006-08-29 15:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the Nanny show or better yet -call them to come help you! YOU are the adult and should not allow this behavior at all! He needs to be placed into time out and made to sit there for the 3-5 min that he is supposed to sit. You cannot give in! You have to pick hime up and put hem back if he gets up. You have to be strong and you will win. Everytime he says no do it at that moment! At the end of the time limit make him apologise and say what he did that was wrong-I am sorry that I said no to you mommy.If he doesn't do his chores when he is supposed to do them make him take his punishment and then make him do the chore. He will figure out that he is missing playtime or cartoon time by not doing his chores at the correct time!If he doesn't do what he is supposed to do take away his fav toys and don't give them back until his behavior is good. Keep taking away everytime until he decides that it is easier to do what is expected rather than suffer the consequences which are losing all of his toys and having to sit out! REMEMBER THIS! HE WHO ANGERS YOU OR UPSETS YOU --CONTROLS YOU! So you are allowing a three yr old to control you and your home! For his sake and yours you must get the parental control you should have.He will be in school soon and will have to deal with principals,teachers,counselors, and coaches. If he acts this way with them he will be having a hard time learning and can even be kicked out or suspended in K! You(and his dad) are the only one responsible for him becoming a responsible and productive person, an adult and if he doesn't learn now he will make your and his lives miserable during the tweens and teens! Best wishes for a happy home and future!
2006-08-29 16:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Reprimand them. My son (now 4) has always responded to "time outs" better than spanking. Also, if he's playing w/ something while misbehaving I'll take away whatever he's playing w/. At this age their testing their limits. That's why u have 2 set them now or ur just asking 4 a lifetime of headaches. Good Luck!
2006-08-29 16:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by eji7997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out, like everyone else said, is the best idea. However, keep in mind that the ideal time in time out should be the same number of minutes as how old your child is. So, your three year old should only be in time out for three minutes. No longer, because then he/she will forget why they are there.
2006-08-29 16:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Amy J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I have a 3 year old and a 4 year old both boys, when I am told
"NO" by my sons, I just look at them tell them " you don't tell me
NO" I will take them and set them on my lap and hold them there for a few minutes, it does work, try it, you might find it helpful.
2006-08-30 22:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by crazy2have3kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say the terrible twos-- I say the horrendous threes. My three year old won't listen to me at all either, it gets better towards 3 1/2. Just keep on them.
2006-08-29 15:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only 3, so you need to take control of the situation. Time-outs, no TV, take toys away. pop on the butt....a lot different than beating a child! If you cannot control your child now how do you think you will be able to handle them when they are 13?
2006-08-29 15:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time out, parents have gotten alittle mushy where discipline's concerned. I still believe in being firm..give him time out, take special things away for unexceptable behaviour and reward system for behaving. A swat on the bottom or you could just turn on the "Nanny".
2006-08-30 03:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to find out who is telling them to say no. Then tell them to stop, it happened to someone i knew the kids grand mother was telling him to say no. It may not be the case though, punishing him will probly be most efficient personaly i would NOT recomend spanking it is very bad (Use it as a last resort) also very normal for his age
2006-08-29 15:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by Donovan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋