I have very bad thoughts everytime my daughter is away from me. I worry someone will steal her, or she will run off and get hit by a car anything. She is 3 and perfect but my anxiety really bothers me. I am anxious about other things but this is overwhelming cause I can not even relax when she is with her father. Does anyone have the same feelings?
2006-08-29 15:43:53 · 11 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Yes, many people suffer from anxiety. I wasn't surprised, that you had added, that you were also, anxious about other 'things'. It is possible, that when your daughter is around (*with) you, she helps you to feel grounded (*and needed). I didn't quite, 'get' what you meant about she was 'perfect'? Perfectly fine? or just...'perfect'??? It is normal up to a point, to feel 'somewhat' anxious, when a small child is with someone else, (*even another parent) because, you feel she is safer with you, and somehow, in turn, that makes you feel safe, as well.Feeling anxious, is an extremely common feeling. Suffering from bouts, of anxiety, can lead to more emotional issues, and cause problems, in existing, in our everyday lives. You do need to speak to someone, redarding your feelings, medication, can help, as long as it doesn't 'mask' what is the true cause, and whether or not it can be easily resolved, again, talking to a trained counselor and or therapist, would be your best first step!
Good Luck!
2006-08-29 15:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant with my honeymoon daughter (married on 4/7, she was born 1/7), I was depressed and had anxiety about what to expect and how would I handle things. After she was born, that same week, I had an emotional breakdown at her wellness check-up. The doctor gave me Prozac which I only took once when I realize that my daughter was sleeping a bit too much (I was breast-feeding her at the time). My anxiety got worse when I couldn't breast-fed her anymore and trying to be the supermom/wife everyone expected me to. The only family that I had at the time was my dad and his girlfriend which helped out but it wasn't enough. My husband wasn't able to help out because he's at work for 12-hrs. My friends worked during the day so I couldn't ask them. My daughter was my responsiblity.
I finally made an appointment with a therapist and found out that I was bi-polor; type 2.
Now that my daughter is 4-yrs. old and is attending pre-school, I'm still concern for her well-being.
It's a normal feeling but if you feel like it's getting out of hand, you might want to talk to someone about it in the medical field. Doesn' hurt to try. They may suggest joining a support group.
Good luck!
2006-08-30 03:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by rosyrotten47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am completely the same way. And i have to say I've never been in an abusive relationship. Anytime my son, who is now 2 1/2, is not with me I have terrible thoughts. It don't matter if it's my husband who has him or my mom. My husband thinks he's doing me a favor by taking our son to the park while I "relax" but really all I do is worry. I think we should both see a therapist or something.
2006-08-29 23:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the exact same problems when my son was younger to the same extent as you. I ended up going to counseling and getting on some medication (Lexapro) that is used for depression and/or anxiety. The best decision I have ever made and has made my life so much better. I would recommend you doing the same.
2006-08-29 23:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by frr_ls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety is an awful thing! It affects more people than u know. However there r many different degrees of it. If it's become overwhelming u need 2 c a dr. about it. It is treatable. Best of luck!
2006-08-29 22:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by eji7997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like this for the 8 months after my son was born. Even when he was with my husband. I'm not sure if its normal but I felt the same way. I think that its just because you love your child more than anything...I still worry sometimes but I got over it after time...
2006-08-29 22:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by mommy_2_little_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to worry, but being co-dependent is a bad thing. You have to let go a little at a time. You will get less and less anxiety with each time
2006-08-29 22:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by DallasGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anxiety is normal since we live in a f-up world. there are evil people in this world who does evil things. but you have to come in terms with emotions before you pass out. you need to focus or do things to keep you busy so you would not have panic or anxiety attacks. keep yourself busy until your child comes home or seek an psychologist to find out what is really causing your paranoia.
2006-08-29 23:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like maybe you had an abusif marriage? it doesnt have to be physically, but even psychologically...so that's why everytime your daughter is with him you have these bad thoughts....if you have fears about this maybe you can see a therapist....but if it doesnt affect your daily life, then maybe you can get over it over time.
2006-08-29 22:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by AslanMusic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is worrying making her any safer?
does the dad love her as much as you do?
people want your daughter safe just as much as you do, just don't crowd her to bad, she will grow to hate you and rebel.
2006-08-29 22:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by ardlesstraveled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋