all she does is pay attention to the baby. she basically breastfeeds the baby to sleep then goes to sleep herself. the babys only two days old and it already sucks to be a parent. what should i do so she like pays more attention to me?
2006-08-29 15:21:14 · 19 answers · asked by Good2Go 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Grow up! Her life doesn't revolve around only you anymore! Of course she goes to sleep after feeding the baby . . . she is still recovering from childbirth! The baby needs her for all of it's needs. If you want her to pay more attention to you (boo hoo) then maybe you should step up and help with the baby so she can get some rest. Try being considerate, loving and helpful and stop acting like some whining little spoiled brat!
2006-08-29 15:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Good2go... just a few quick things to say here.
Your wife is extremely tired. Having a baby is one of the most physically stressful things a body can (and will) go through, and she will take some time to heal from it emotionally as well as physically. Your wife and baby both need you right now. Let her rest! She's going through all this for you, too. You could bring the baby to her at night, so she doesn't have to get up to breastfeed... you could volunteer for a few diaper changes here and there, (my husband gagged, so be ready!) and many other things. TRUST ME when I say this, you will earn Brownie points out the wazoo by just doing a few little things to help out! Vacuum the floors, do the dishes once a week,cook dinner, etc. Your wife will appreciate it more than you could possibly imagine, and will want to pay attention to you! I hope this helps you... and congratulations on your new baby!
2006-08-29 22:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up you fricking puss! She just pushed a watermelon out of ykw. I am sure the baby and your wife are excluding you intentionally. Poor you...poor poor youuuu....Waaaaahhhh! Wait! I know what you should do! Quick! Go clean the entire house. Now, Do the shopping and pay all the bills, and by the way could you please get your body to create a new being and then start lactating so you can nourish and comfort the new being? Make sure you make everyone else around you feel like they are MUCH more important than yourself throughout this entire process. Oh, and you need to accomplish all this with a smile. No, you won't need any help or emotional support during this period of time. Don't take a bath or nap at all either. Then you'll look AND feel your best when that special moment occurs.
2006-08-29 22:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by ginarene71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your baby is a new experience for both of you. A baby cannot live on its own for right now. You can!! Your wife has to pay attention to it. And having a baby is hard work and you are tired and exhausted!! She still loves you.....the baby is only 2 days old, she is just getting used to having a baby around. May be sit with her while she is breastfeeding and talk to her or ask her if you can help with things around the house......give it time, it will all work out!
2006-08-29 22:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by livelaughlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww. Don't worry it will get better. Just think of the wonderful life you two brought into the world. After your wife gets enough rest I'm sure it'll get better. Giving birth is a big project and the mommy needs all her rest she can get.
Maybe suggest to her that she pumps so you can feed the baby while she rests up some more which will get her back on her feet quicker to have more daddy time.
Goodluck with everything and congrats on the new baby!!!
2006-08-29 22:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Stine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I t will be like this for the first 2 months at least. I have a 4 month old. It is extremely exhausting for her! especially when you are breastfeeding. My husband and I finally got our sex life back 1 month ago. I would recommend helping with the baby as much as possible. This will make her happy and help her not be so tired. Things as small as bringing the baby to her when he wakes up in the middle of the night for a feeding so she doesn't have to get up. Or if you can purchase or rent a breast pump so she can pump milk and you can feed the baby. These kinds of things are extremely sexy to a wife, we like to see you get involved plus it will help with her fatigue. Good Luck!
2006-08-29 22:27:22 · answer #6 · answered by rye252000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hang in there. Having had three kids with my wife, I can tell you the bond between mother and baby is beyond what we dads can experience. It is hard for a mom NOT to focus on the little one!
As the baby gets older, I found that I got more involved and felt less left out. Try to get involved: change diapers, help with burping, etc.
Nothing is sexier for a new mom than an involved dad.
2006-08-29 22:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Hyun Lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is exhausted. It's new to her also and she just gave birth. Remember that. You should try to be understanding and patient. In a few months and years (the time will fly, trust me) Being a parent will be the best thing you've ever done in your life. No matter what the relationship with your wife is like. Remember these days as they are so fleeting.
2006-08-29 22:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by *Larry P. he's for me* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try growing up.
This is a woman who is exhausted. She has gone through labor, been cut or torn to facilitate delivery, been kicked out of the hospital before she was able to care for herself and the baby by a HMO, is scared/worried that she is doing something wrong, and is trying to do the best she can for the life that you BOTH created. Cut her some slack. She will notice you when she has the strength. Meanwhile, you might try helping her a bit.
2006-08-29 22:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by lockesmith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh grow up your poor wife just went through childbirth and she has a life totally dependant on her and she is most obviously the caregiver here and all you can think is what about me. well why dont you help her when the baby wakes up in 2 hours bring her the baby for feeding and change the diaper then make her a nice breakfast and really take care of her. believe me she will notice and whatever you do give her a chance to recoup before sex. just hold her and hug her she needs that now. btw welcome to parenthood!
2006-08-29 22:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋