My fiance' is currently in afghanastan he is in the military and i am trying to get some ideas going so that we can start officaly planning our wedding, but as i was searching for things wouldnt it b easier if we had a theme??? do most weddings have a theme??? and if so what are some theme ideas........
2006-08-29 15:16:21 · 32 answers · asked by ♥ LEILANI ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've been a wedding consultant for 20 years. Almost all planned weddings (and how many are NOT planned?) have a theme, if not -- they should, for sure.
A theme is not necessarily "Minni and Micky in Paris" or "Ne-Naw Hay-ride Picnic". "Hot pink and lime green" is a theme. A theme can be a feeling coupled with a color scheme; "Eclectic in muted pastels".
It makes everything much easier, every time, if you spend a few moments choosing a theme -- it should be obvious. The theme should speak of your personality, your favorite colors, favorite season, things you love as a bride or as a couple.
Jot these down and narrow the lists with headings such as; color (bright, pastel, black and white), feeling/mood (fun, light-hearted, sophisticated), location (country club, hotel, home) etc. They all should coincide, however. Causal at a country club doesn't work. Casual at a botanical gardens does. Black and white at noon usually doesn't work -- it does at 8PM.
Don't give it TOOO much thought -- it will have a contrived (not spontaneous, natural) feeling.
"Eclectic, muted pastels" could mean invitations with scrolling mixed watermark graphics, overlays for the guest tables that reflect this feeling, ribbon bands on the cake in pink and green, bouquets with green orchids, pink roses and lavender lisianthus, pale green dresses with pink ribbon sashes... see what I mean.
Above all, HAVE FUN!
2006-08-29 16:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Don Chestnut 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Weddings don't have to have a theme in my opinion. You should do things that personalize it...little things you can "add in" but it doesn't have to be one big day full of the same thing everywhere you look. As long as you plan on the lifetime "theme" of loving eachother, the rest of it really won't matter besides you both being there and meaning everything you say when you look into eachother's eyes to say your vows. I have been stressed out about all the details of my wedding and my fiancee has consistantly said throughout the entire planning process - "will you be there? I will be there... nothing else will really matter as long as WE are just right!" and now with less than 2 weeks to go and a couple of those last minute disasters... I have realized, He has been SO RIGHT the whole time.
Congratulations and I hope your fiance will be home soon and safely. Thanks to him and to you for all you sacrifice for all of us!
God Bless
2006-08-29 18:05:25 · answer #2 · answered by mom2riah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many don't have a theme in the sense of a Western, tropical, Greek, etc...
Just pick how formal you want it to be, then a couple of colors for your wedding. Choose them in relation to what will look good on your bridesmaids in their dresses and what your favorite colors are. If you love blue but your maid of honor looks bad in blue, try another close shade like navy or aqua. Then have an accent color for the bridesmaids to wear. Incorporate the colors into the flowers, decorations, and other things. That way you could still have a put together look without having to choose an actual "theme". This is actually what most brides do.
For ideas try:
http://www.weddingchannel.com
It's free to join and there are tons of great planning tools, tips, and ideas that I haven't seen anywhere else.
2006-08-29 17:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, please PLEASE skip the whole theme thing. It's an idea, promoted by the wedding industry, to sell you more crap.
When he gets back from fighting the war on terror, do you think your soldier (or airman or Marine) fiancé is going to want to think about a wedding theme? He's just going to want to marry you and start a life together. And that just requires the two of you and an officiant, but usually also includes family and friends, pictures, flowers, a cake, etc.
Keep it simple and strike whatever tone you want -- elegant, casual, whatever -- but you'll find everything about planning the thing easier when the theme is about getting married and not about fairytales or the tropics or springtime or Lord knows what.
Celebrate the marriage, that's the only theme you need.
Congrats and best of luck to you!
P.S. If you decide to create a video photo montage (a short film using photos of you and your fiancé growing up and then, eventually, together), I create those and I want to offer a discount to military personnel who've been in Afghanistan and Iraq. Our new web site will be up in about a week, but don't even worry about it 'til you get further along in the planning. When you do, reference Yahoo Answers and check out:
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2006-08-29 19:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by Andy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me a wedding is a theme in and of itself. From from what I've been reading, themes are becoming popular.
Pro - you have a framework within to plan. If you know you are doing the whole wedding in, for example, lavendar and silver with a floral theme, that narrows down a lot of your choices.
Con - you are stuck within that framework. If you were doing the theme I mentioned above but found the most amazing candle centerpieces with stars and moons for dirt cheap, well, there goes an opportunity. Or your theme.
2006-08-29 18:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning a formal wedding, I have never heard of a theme being necessary. I have attended mostly formal weddings and the only 'theme' is the colors the bride choose. Just pick what colors you want your brides maids to wear and coordinate the flowers with those dresses. Congrats and enjoy your lives together. Check out this website....imagebydesign.com It has tons of ideas for weddings, parties, bridal showers, etc.
2006-08-29 15:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not been to a wedding with a theme. Acutally, you might create more work for yourself by choosing a theme, cause that would limit your options. Don't stress yourself out about coordinating everything to a theme. Have a beautiful, classy and fun wedding. Best of luck!
2006-08-30 03:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A theme is not necessary, but can be fun. I wanted a traditional wedding, but I had several underlying "themes" that made the wedding cohesive but weren't obvious. For example, there were hearts on many of our wedding items (invitations, candles, placecards). Also, my dress had a scallopped hem so I get a scallopped veil with crystal drops. To tie in the crystal drops, I had them on my unity candle and cake serving set. So, everything had underlying themes but they weren't blatant. Just an idea...
2006-08-29 18:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a theme if you wanted to. For instance, if you r going to have the ceremony outside near a lake or on the beach your theme could be Hawaiian. But what you really have to have is a color scheme picked, that is usually based on what month of the year you are getting married. My color scheme is going to be a rustic orange mixed with green,brown, and yellow because my wedding is going to in the fall. It is your wedding what you like you can do. It is your day.
2006-08-29 16:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by charmed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some weddings do, some weddings don't. It's all based upon personal preference. I've been to a family member's wedding who actually had a renaissance themed wedding...then recently, I went to a wedding and the main theme was "spring in summer"...but if it were me...I'd have no theme. I just intend on getting married while on a cruise :) or right before at a corner chapel or something. -shrugs-
2006-08-29 15:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by orange_et_manuges 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋