How do you forget about someone who's past on over a year and you can't get over it?

Question

My auntie died last year and I always cry. All I think is God I'm Simple.

Answer 1

Why forget? Do you best to honor her.

Answer 2

My grandmother passed away quite a few years ago and I miss her more than anything. My dad also passed away 3 years ago and It still doesn't feel like he is gone. Your auntie may be one of your spirit guide now and watching over you. Talk to her. She may even be giving you signs that she is okay. Look for the signs. It could be anything. You'll know It's your auntie giving you a sign...you'll feel it. I know that what I just said may sound strange to you, but I've dealt with things like that and truly believe in them. The love you had for your Auntie will never go away but time will help subside the pain. I am truly sorry about your loss. I know how hard it can be. You must have had a very close and special relationship with your Auntie. Memories are forever so think of all the good and happy times you had with her and know that even though her body is gone her spirit isn't. Just want to add that your not simple, your a person with real feelings and emotions, and that says alot on how special you are.

Answer 3

First of all, I think you shouldn't be worried about crying alot. My dad passed away in Janurary and I'm 11 years old and more than half of my life, he was in the hospital. And when he wasn't, I never got to really play with him or really do anything with him. I still cry, and I think right now I'm about to cry.
It's good that you're crying about your aunt, I mean, because it shows how much you care about her or maybe that's just another family member that died.
Some people take a few weeks, or a few months, or even over a year like you. Everyone's different. Some day you'll forget about it. Well, maybe not forget about it but just not cry so much about it. So I don't think you should worry. Some people take a long time, some people take short time.

Answer 4

The deeper you love the deeper you hurt.
It always upset me when 911 happened and the government was telling everyone just to get back to normal and go on with our lives.
When someone is suddenly taken from us each of us act differantly . Love is the deepest emotion we are blessed with and when you give of your heart and allow yourself to love so much it also will hurt even more.
Those who love little won't be able to understand this. There are some individuals that are so unique that when we lose them the pain last so long because they were of a flavor that you can't describe, only if you had known them for the years and good and bad times you have shared would they ever come close to knowing the bonds you developed. I* lost my mom dad and oldest sister in the last couple years, It's changed everything. Now I do everything I can to make more of our time available to our kids.

Answer 5

You dont forget. My mother passed away 3 years ago, Theres not a day that goes by that I dont think of her. Me and my mother where very close, she raised me and my sister on her own and to make a long story short, I never got the chance to say goodbye or I love you to my mother nor did I know she was even so ill in the hospitol. I was living in a different state then my family at the time and noone contacted me til it was to late. You learn to never accept it as time goes by but yet you learn to deal with the pain. The easiest way for me to pick myself back up from such a empty feeling inside was by writing and to be honest that didnt help much,....all and all it takes time.......Im not the best in putting things into words but hey I know what ur feeling.

Answer 6

You should not try to forget about her ... you should always remember her and remember the good stuff about her that you liked and remember the times that you spent together. I'm sure your aunt does not want you to sit around and mourn... she would want you to be happy. Death of someone you care about always hurts ... the pain is normal... nothing can make it just go away.... what you need to do is find positive ways to remember the person and learn to accept the fact that they are gone but you are still here to influence people the same way she influenced you... in that way she will live on through you.

Answer 7

Losing someone is a very sad experience and what you are feeling is normal - you don't want to forget your auntie and you shouldn't. But with time you will be able to think of her without shedding tears, hopefully you will just remember her lovingly and without sorrow. Be thankful that she was such an important part of your life and remember the good times!

Answer 8

Try to enjoy some new experiences. Maybe put away some things that remind you of her. You can always take them out again later. Talk about it with sympathetic people.

Also, listening to others about their suffering can help you realize what a waste it is to dwell on our losses, and how we all lose and suffer a great deal in our lives. I find, helping others or just listening, is not only good for them, but also very helpful for me.

I think if you're still really upset after a year, you need to get more active in your life. Take on some new challenges and risks. Meet new people. Try to get out of your rut.

Hope that helps :)

Answer 9

Give her one last good cry while thanking her for being just who she was to you. Let her know that you miss her and will always love her. Always remember the good times and if you need to talk to someone in your family, make sure it is someone who is a good listener who will safely comfort you. When you feel a cry coming on - smile. Smile and say thank you then get up and do something good for yourself.

Answer 10

It's been 6 years since my father died and I am no more "over it" now than I was the next day. You just have to remember that love lasts forever and it doesn't fade or diminish as time passes. That being said, you still have to continue your life as I'm sure your aunt would want you to.

Answer 11

First of all I would like to say sorry for your loss. But like alot of people are going to say is that time will heal all wounds.It may not be easy but you can do it. I lost my grampa a few years ago and it was hard. You need to focus on the special memories you both share. Also ask yourself how your aunt would want you to feel. She would really want you to be unhappy. Of course not. Remember the good times. Best of luck to you and hope everything works out.