as if being by his side throughout all the drama he caused in me..him cheating on me, then not wanting to be tied down to s anyone , then asking for help with his problems, always out with other girls and god knows what else hes doing, im still standin here thinkin one day hell snap out of it and realize what he has and that no girl would stand here still waiting for him after all that...
as if that's not enough, now hes been gettin REALLY close with one girl and he started to talk to me less and less but he says me n him are still good. I dont know what to do anymore...my heads tellin me to MOVE ON AND forget this loser...my hearts the one thats holdin on b/c i need him...what am i going to do? im crazy jealous of that other girl and the attention he gives her...:) sigh
2006-08-29 14:44:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MOVE ON. NOT WORTH YOUR TIME OR ENERGY. GO THRU THE PAIN OF CUTTING HIM OFF THEN MOVE ON
2006-08-29 14:48:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you not doing right? The question is more like "What is he doing wrong?" And the answer is "Everything!"
Oh girl, you should know that no person in the world deserves this treatment unless they do the same to another. He is just holding on to you because he knows you are holding on to him. I dont know if its because he is reserving you as booty-call or just as the girl to be with if he FIRST CHOICE of girls reject him. And you should NEVER be some man's second choice. I mean dont you want to be with a guy that wants you as his FIRST AND ONLY choice?
And why do you feel you "need" him? Is your "need" bad enough to withstand his disrespect and disloyalty?
2006-08-29 22:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you just typed and try to tell me he doesn't fully control you. You need to dump the chump. When you do dump him he is going to put a huge guilt trip on you. Do NOT fall for the guilt trip. You just caught a loser hun,throw him back where you found him and find a better catch. He is controling you by getting you emotionaly involved in his problems that I will bet he either makes up or is the one causing them.
2006-08-29 21:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What exactly are you "holding on to" here? A guy who only comes around when some other girl isn't available? Stop being a doormat. Demand more of yourself, don't put up with bad behavior.
2006-08-29 21:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Geez Louise!! get your head out of the hole and into the sunshine! Look at what you wrote tomorrow in the daylight, look at him and decide for yourself if he is worth your time and trouble. If you have had a child together, I would encourage both of you to work on your relationship.
2006-08-29 21:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by kram k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel really bad for you, but it's all in what you can take,& when you've had your fill of it all, you'll find a way to walk out of this turmoil thats holding you down. He's using you,for a stepping stone, until he finds himself secure else where.
2006-08-29 21:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by sqishieears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey! i couldn't help but feel really sry for you. u seriously need to get out of this dead end relationship. as hard as it kills to leave him, i understand that part of you still love him and don't wanna leave me, but its time to respect yourself and find yourself someone who RESPECTS you. clearly, as harsh as this may sound, he doesn't love you or not into you. he's a player-type. he's only saying that you and him are good because he knows that you can tolerate him and he can take advantage of that, so that if he stuffed up with the other chicks he can still use you as a backup etc. i wish you well. you are worth it, don't be hard up for this loser!
2006-08-29 21:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
an honest answer, your too good. guys dont want a girl who puts up with all their stuff. since you "stick" by him he'll just use you for that and thats it. ive done it. nice girls are like nice guys. fun to use but it gets tiresome having someone whos there for you no matter what.
2006-08-29 21:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by justintke 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a guy, but I just gotta say... your head is correct. Move on! There's somebody better out there for you, guaranteed.
2006-08-29 21:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by milomax 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask your self one question.......
If your best friend said the same thing about the dumb @$$ cheater she was pining over would you tell her to drop him?
Girlfriend ... MOVE ON!!!! He has.
HE has moved on.... you are just side action!
You are better than that.
Move on! He AINT worth your tears!~ Or "sighs"
2006-08-29 21:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by DrVodka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's doing you wrong,my dear. To him, you are his safety net, I'm afraid. He is showing you NO RESPECT. That is obvious. The important things is, however....are YOU showing YOU respect?
2006-08-29 21:50:00 · answer #11 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋