Advice on breaking up?

Question

I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 8 months about 30 minutes ago...it was quite sudden, mostly because i was just discussing the possiblity of taking a break with him yesterday, but then within 1 hour of that conversation he broke my trust. and i questioned him about it today, and thats when i realized i had to make it official. i was wondering if anybody has any advice they could give me to either get over it, or decide what to do next....he claims he still loves me, i just don't know where i stand with him anymore....i don't know how i feel, i'm just sick of being heart broken....thanks for your help...

trusting issue....

i'v had trouble trusting him over the past few months...he lies to me, he keeps things from me, and he's constantly telling other people personal things about me that i don't want people to know....after it happened too many times, i got sick of hearing my personal secrets from other people, so i asked him to stop talking about me with his friends, and to just refrain from using my name in his conversations....

so breaking my trust this time, was simply that i took a huge risk confronting him about his issue (the break) because it wasn't something i was sure about, nor is it anything i would normally do. i'm normally not brave at all, so it was incredibally hard to get myself to even bring up the idea with him..so as soon as i brought it up, he imedietly started telling people everything i told him (it still wasn't offical), and the next day people came up to me asking me about it...i was hurting already, so it just kind of made things worse.

Answer 1

Well you didn't say how he broke your trust so I can't give you that much help, but if it was something you have been considering then you probably made the right decision and I would suggest sticking with that decision for awhile until you figure out what it is you really need and want.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

8 months is a little too short a time to gain a person's trust. Perhaps you should ask yourself why you wanted a break from him in the first place. Is it because his character is unreliable? Or is it because you've been toying with the idea of a breakup just to test his affection for you? I can't give you any advice on how to get over a breakup because I am not even sure if it is for real, this time. I feel like you need to talk to your boyfriend one more time and work things out properly. It's not normal to break up a 8 month relationship in 1 hour. Be more rational when you handle your relationship in future.

Answer 4

It is normal to feel uncertain after a breakup. If you were mulling it over before the official one anyway, it is probably time to look elsewhere for what you want. Regret is just part of the process. Trust your instincts and move on. Time will heal the broken heart, but having one is just a part of the process of growing. Sorry you are going through this now.

Answer 5

I think it is way too soon to be considering anything. It is best to just back away from the situation right now and clear your head.

Take time doing things that make you happy. Visit your favorite places, listen to upbeat music, start a new hobbie, catch up with some family or friends and start a journal. That usually helps.

Good luck!

Answer 6

First of all, what you did is something to feel good about. That's awesome that you have put yourself and your well-being first. So many times, we as women have trouble doing that. I think you need some time to do some soul-searching, to figure out what to do next. Whatever you do, try not to spend too much time alone and stewing. That's when loneliness sets in and we tend to make poor decisions. Most importantly, surround yourself with family and friends and try to keep busy. Best of luck.

Answer 7

first of all, you may pick to enable him down gently. So, discover some quiet place the place you 2 can sit down and seek advice from a minimum of one yet another. start up wiht your issues, and mayb, jointly as you 2 are talking, you may understand that breaking apart isnt what you pick. If thats no longer the case, tell him which you want a destroy from him. enable the destroy up be mutual. Dont be harsh otherwise, issues would possibly no longer be sturdy interior the destiny. in spite of if or no longer you pick to stay friends is as much as you, however the suitable case situation, could be for the destroy as much as be mutual and have not any difficult emotions in touch. sturdy luck!

Answer 8

I know exactly how you feel and what you mean but if you dont trust him then theres no since into doing anything like worrying yourself see if a relationship dosent have any trust you have nothing and you dont deserve that so if you feel you need to cry go ahead everything to get over(except allegal or sinful) but anything to get over it and then move on ,what dose your heart tell you to do listen to it folow it becasue sometimes thats what people should listen to their heart I hope this helps

Answer 9

how did he break your trust?
well, breaking up is really painful especially if you still want the relationship to work out. but then again, in the first place, if you know that you still love each other, why did it have to end? if you know that you still want to try, then work it out. but if you have decided to call it off, then stand with your decision. let go, move on and recover. =) 8 months is not a joke, so i wish somehow you could still be friends in the future. but as for me, girl... if you know that you still love each other and the reason for break up is too shallow, talk about it and try to fix it up.

Answer 10

Awww..I'm sorry. I'm going through a break-up of...a month. What you need to do is not talk to him for a while. If you keep talking to him all the time you can't get over him. Give yourself a few weeks...a month. Think about it and you will have a much clearer picture of what's going on. I promise. And, it DOES get better.