She is the world to me, I dont want to move on unless I know for sure she doesnt have any feelings at all.??

Question

what should i think?
this is what a girl I like emailed me, its obvious that she doesnt want to be more than friends, my question is, is it because she doesnt like me like that,? because she sure used to act like she liked me, and then she backed off, as if she was scared, but i think if she didnt feel anything at all , she would not have put the part about, ruining a frienship in there, please help??

hey,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

i mean shes only 13 and im 15..so i think shes scared..because, she wouldnt have acted like she did, if she didnt like me

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12 minutes ago
i mean if she didnt like me at all, she wouldnt have led me on, plus her and her mom are REALLY close, and her mom said she is just really really scared, should i move on forever, or just for now

Answer 1

because she's young she might have gave you wrong signals or mixed actions that led you to believe that she's feeling the same way you do.. but if she's not talking to you and it's obvious to you that she doesnt love you then it's better if you'll start moving on.. but if you really wanna make it sure then ask her and accept whatever answer she'll give you!! goodluck!! dont expect too much.. and remember it's better to love and lost than never to love at all! ....part of growing up!! *wink*

Answer 2

First of all, you two are very young and its easy to be scared at that age as well as confused. But if you really care for her, then you should give her time, give her space. I mean you dont have to feel like you should move on forever, people's feelings change as they grow older.

But if you want an answer for now, then yes, just go on with your life right now, take your mind off of her and hang out with some friends or family or go out and meet new people.

Im guessing she already knows how you feel about her, so give her time, and when shes ready she'll let you know how she really feels for you. But for now, if all she wants is for you to be her friend---then just be her friend.

If she starts to "act" like she likes you more than a friend then have a talk with her and ask her why she is doing it---before you end up putting your feelings out there and getting hurt! No real friend would lead another friend on.

Answer 3

Give it time.. She is only 13!!! 13 year old girls are just starting to grow up.....and get out of certain childish stages in their lives. I would give her time and not push her. Also I would be careful about not bringing up anything she said to her mother, because she could take that as betrayal from her mom and take it OUT ON YOU. I would just play it relaxed and I can understand her not wanting to ruin a friendship. Sometimes relationships cannot be returned to the prior state, once you have moved forward. Thought I firmly believe that friendship is the best basis for a relationship and marriage. Thought I am more headed toward that than you are...as I am almost twice her age!!!!

Good Luck. Just don't forget you both have many more years ahead....to experience relationships! : )

Answer 4

Buck up and move on. I am now 30 and FINALLY found the man of my dreams. You both will go through so many changes that if she says she wants to be friends then let it be that. I mean if you love something let it go if it comes back to you returning the same feelings then its yours to keep. Woman are a bunch of catch 22's,and being one I speak from experience. Men and woman speak 2 different languages and you will never understand here so believe her when she says she only looks at you as a friend. Can't get any clearer than that at this point. If you push it you may not even get to keep the friendship so figure out what is most important to you keeping her as a friend or not having her at all and let things be as they land

Answer 5

Well, I wouldnt date you if you posted my email all over the internet. I understand that you are supposedly looking for advice, but it seems like nomatter what anyone says, you will still pursue this girl.

No means no. If you keep pushing things, you will be left with no friendship with her, let alone a relationship.

Work on yourself and give the girl some space!!!!

Answer 6

my friend had a situation where he liked a girl and she kept leading him on and she broke his heart because she likes too many guys and i know the girl and she's my friend but not so much anymore because she was mean to one of my best friends. i think that she isn't interested right now and you should move on there is more than one hot girl out there and you deserve more respect than that even if her mom says she's just scared, move on, get over her! but i think also you should talk to her face to face and get some answers first! then move on.

Answer 7

i think you should wait for her especially after the way you feel about her she is young and you have to understand that you being 15 makes adifference she probbably never has kissed aboy but really likes you just ascred of that stuff dont do anything sexual with her wait untill she is at legal age,be sensitive to her feelings and make her feel asfe and not scared to be around you or to show you how she feels

Answer 8

i think you are too young to worry about that ...
you are only 15.. see what happens in 3 years

Answer 9

it seems like this girl means a lot to you. i think she really likes you,but she is scared. don't give up yet.

Answer 10

there s plenty more girls ....i mean if she likes u you'll no , for sure.....juss TALK TO HER!! : )