I have an older half-brother (dads side) that was put up for adoption at birth because my dad and his mom were very young. He's recently contacted our family and wants my parents to fly him here to stay with them. I'm glad they've found each other- but I've talked to him a few times and he's said some things that have caused me to be concerned he's only wanting to reunite with dad for financial reasons. I'm afraid my dad will be hurt- I don't want to stop the reunion because I feel they need to know each other- but is there anything I can say or do now that might prepare my dad without coming off sounding bitchy?
2006-08-29 14:22:21 · 8 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Does your family know a lawyer--maybe someone your dad knows---contact that person and let them know what's going on...I smell a rat who wants some cheese.
Also, do you know where he lives now? Find out the county (it's not hard, just yahoo the city/state and figure it out from there) and then xx your fingers that the circuit court is online--enter his name and see what big bro's been up to lately.
Just a thought.
2006-08-29 14:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like an awfully difficult situation your in. Can you talk with your father about how you feel? If this young man was adopted, your father does not have any legal responsibility to him financially or ethically. Think of all the sperm donors all over the world! Your father did what he thought was the right thing to do at the time - you should be proud of him. It could not have been an easy decision for him. Maybe, (although, I don't understand why so many people really want to meet their biological parents) he just wants to meet your father. After all, conception doesn't make a father - the person who raised this person is his father. Be by your father's side - and things will have there own way of working out. I'm sure your father is feeling a little awkward too (and your whole family).
2006-08-29 21:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by Paige2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just voice ur concerns to yr dad and let him know that u care a great deal about his feelings and u don't want him to be hurt,and if ur half brother just wants money than ur dad will know in the long run that u was upset enough to talk to him about it,let him know what was said when u talked to him.
2006-08-29 21:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes do a background checlk your brother and have the brother sign a type of nuptual agreement not wanting your dads money.
2006-08-29 21:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go jumping to conclusions and you know that your dad is probably wondering too....You could tell him that he just needs to take it easy ..get to know him first and not to do something because he feels it is his duty...
2006-08-29 21:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jen I can see that you are a family person, I am sorry I can't hep you on this one
2006-08-30 21:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and try to explain your points. but i think you are right asking to have them fly him out is kinda off.
2006-08-29 21:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by dreamwolf22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sexy or hot or fine
2006-08-30 00:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by dominguezav3p4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋