Ok I'm worried about a friend especially after what happened at soccer practice today. She used to eat and then she didn't eat that much and now she doesn't eat at all! She says she's starving herself until she's 85 lbs. and at 5'5 (or 6) that is not normal! Today is her first day of officially not eating at all (usually she has a small salad) and she said she felt fine. Then at soccer practice today it was REALLY hot and we were running and having scrimmiges. Well my friend has A LOT of endurance and is barely ever tired or atleast she never says anything unlike everyone else! Well today close to the end of practice she starts to hold her mouth and cover her stomache and goes to sit down and drink water. She comes back in but she seems sick in a way. I talk to her and so do the coaches and we all conclude its not from eating. Later when I talked to her she felt dizzy too. Her mom is forcing her to eat now but she says she won't eat! Does she have anorexia + should I talk 2 a teach?
2006-08-29 14:19:46 · 15 answers · asked by thoroughbred 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
Yes, it sounds like she's struggling with an eating disorder. Talk with a teacher, a coach, a parent, or any other adult that you trust. If you decide to speak with your friend, here are some tips:
-Talk with her when you both have a good amount of time, so it's not rushed.
-Let her know what you've seen her do that worries you. Tell her you want her to get help.
-Ask her how she's feeling about your concerns.
-Give her some names of websites that tell her how to get help.
http://www.edreferral.com/
http://www.something-fishy.org/treatmentfinder/
She's lucky to have such a caring friend. :)
2006-08-29 17:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by EDtherapist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's well on her way..I've struggled for a few years now. It is not something that anyone she get into. You need to talk to her and express your concerns, if she doesn't agree to start eating..even a little bit at first will be better than nothing..than you need to talk to her parents or the teach and then they could mentioned to the parents their concern. Also, if you are there when she eats..make sure she doesn't start to purge secretly. It's not easy to stop so the best thing you can do is try to help her and be there for her.. I'm here if you have any questions
2006-08-30 18:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by dusty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! I would definitely talk to someone. Maybe even your coach. 85 lbs. is not very much at all for being 5'5. Playing soccer and not eating is going to cause her to become very weak and in poor health. eventually she could faint and cause brain damage. Remember that lady I think her name was Terry who was in a vegetable state b/c of a eating disorder? Her husband took her off of it after years of waiting? I don't want to scare you, but I think you would be a great friend if you helped her out; and just remember to stand by her and help her through this, b/c it could become very difficult for her..
2006-08-29 22:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by vanraegill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your Mom to see if she can talk to your friend's mom. You should also go to your school counselor ASAP. Your friend is in REAL trouble.
A friend of mine has a daughter going through treatment now for anorexia, and you can't just "make" this person eat. It isn't that simple. Doctors, counselors, and nutritionists need to be involved when it has gotten to this point. Your friend is not just in the beginning stages- she is full-fledged anorexic.
Once she starts treatment, she may be really irritable and want to be a bit reclusive. Just stand by her- support does matter.
2006-08-29 21:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definitely has a problem. It's for a doctor to diagnose as anorexia, but yes, you should talk to someone who can help her. Forcing her to eat is not a good idea, as she could just purge when she's alone. This is a task for professionals!
2006-09-04 06:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Myrna B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say beginning stages. It depends if she will really not eat when she gets hungry. You need to talk to someone. I don't know why she thinks 85 is a good weight, but it isn't. Why is she willing to give up soccer, and her life?
2006-08-29 21:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by pug hugger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya she does! thats a very serious thing to have it can even cause death! you need to tell more than just a teacher! her mom may not be tryin to make her eat she could b jus sayin that so u want no an tell her also that all the weight that she loses when she does start back eatin that she will gain double back and faster than when she lost it tell her to eat healthy and with excerise she will get to the weight that she wants and that way it would be healthy
2006-08-29 21:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by scarlett_bytch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definitely needs some counseling. It is not normal to "starve" yourself for any reason, but especially to get down to an abnormal, unhealthy weight such as that. Talk to her parents yourself, and if that doens't work, then you need to take it to a higher level, teachers or counsellors. You cannot "force" her to eat, she had a mental perception that is not health.
2006-08-29 21:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Chiro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like anorexia. problem with making her eat, you have to watch and see if she goes to the bathroom immediately after eating to through up the food she has eaten. she definitely needs to seek help and please make sure her family is aware of the continual problem. bless you for being a friend that worries. you are wonderful..smiles
2006-09-03 10:33:43 · answer #9 · answered by merci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should talk to a teacher that she trust. Her mom needs to get her help and get it quick. with out food, you body begins to shut down. Tell your friend that this will kill her if she doesnt eat.
2006-09-04 22:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat19582002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋