Would you be insulted if your gf wanted to change the way you dress a little?
I'm not all that crazy about the way my man dresses. Are there subtle ways to try and change that just a little bit? I don't want to hurt him, and I accept him the way he is...I just think he could look so much better if he put a bit more effort into his style.
Anyway, should I just put up with it or is there a way to go about it that might work for the both of us???
2006-08-29 14:10:30 · 12 answers · asked by CC 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and ladies, feel free to answer this as well. Thanks!
2006-08-29 14:11:10 · update #1
The problem with this is men generally don't want to change. That's why nagging never works. However, there are ways to change a man that don't seem like you're trying to change him. You women don't realize what power you wield. Try going shopping with him and suggesting clothes that you like. You might tell him that you think a certain shirt would look good on him. Get him to try it on and tell him how studly he looks in it. Unless your man doesn't care at all about how he looks, he'll probably take notice and buy that shirt. Most guys want to be appealing to women. Remember, we're very visual, so we understand physical attraction. As long as he thinks he's changing his wardrobe to be more appealing to you, I don't think he'd be offended. I can't guarantee that this will work; all I know is that if my girlfriend told me I looked hot in a certain style of clothing, I'd be a lot more likely to wear it than if she said, "Honey, I really don't like your clothes. Let's buy you a new wardrobe." Hope this helps!
2006-08-29 14:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by rockdahouse85 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a tendency to dress a little drab,but my S.O. 'suggested' I wear brighter colors. I would never refuse any request she might make of me, so I now I dress more colorfully, and I actually feel better about myself, somehow. I don't think anyone ought try to change anybody. I mean, if you've fallen in love with someone, why change any of the things that made up the initial attraction?
2006-08-29 21:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of what attracts me to a guy is - part - in his care of his dress. Did you not notice it before dating him? I would get the credit card out and tell him that a Saturday is set aside for him, but that you get to pick out what you buy for him. Take him shopping and have him try things you like. Then when something looks good, give him that sexy eye contact. Maybe this will give him some inspiration. I think it's important to take pride in yourself - maybe he just needs this loving effort.
2006-08-29 21:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by CA Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
K, this one is easy. First, most men don't put a whole lot into our look. Women do! I say you got a good chance just introducing things one by one. Odds are, he'll never notice and start liking it too. Having a slight wardrobe change isn't like you are trying to change his general make-up and mind set. Hell, we don't even like to shop, so he will probably be cool with you doin it for him. Now you got the control (wardrobe) you were looking for.
2006-08-29 21:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by kmusic212 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you try taking him shopping, and dropping subtle hints on what you think might look good on him. You might even see if he'll try some of them on for you. But don't push too hard or you'll only wind up getting into an argument, and that's no good either! Good luck and God Bless!
2006-08-29 21:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm the type who would really accept whatever my BF would wear.. There are also times wherein I would comment on his clothing.. I would not tell him to chane his style but merely suggest what to wear.. "Ever tried this? Or this? Or this?" That's simply what I always say.. He'snot offended and would try the things I've suggested..
If your BF is understanding enough, he would not take what you said badly.. But then, again, SUGGEST what he should wear not TELL.. ^-^
2006-08-29 21:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me...I was a bit "put off" until I figured out that she was really giving me some pretty good tips to be more "in line" with today's fashion. I tolerated it and was glad I did.
2006-08-29 21:14:29 · answer #7 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to change a person.....Unless he wears ghetto clothes to like a wedding or something in that nature.... If so find a new guy..
2006-08-29 21:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by 800 bound 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess you can help him out a little but dont change him too much
2006-08-29 21:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by viper8641 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not be insulted...I would see it as a change to see her fashion POV
2006-08-29 21:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Commander 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋