Moving Out at 17 or 18 suggestion and opinions?

Question

Im 17 and turning 18 in 3 months. I moved to fl 2 years ago and absolutely hate it here, and I wish to move out to cali. my parents are old-fashioned and they dont want me to move out. (problably have plans to keep me till im 30) i love them very much but i just have things that i want to accomplish and places to see with experiance to gain and grow. A friend of mine wants me to move out with HER to cali, where we split rent, and she can get me a job, but when should i go about doing this? she wants me to do it now but i kinda feel bad about moving before im 18. i havent told my parents the news or anything, but i know they will flip. One reason cuz im moving out, 2nd ill be in with a female, and 3rd pretty far away. Also, when i go about telling them the plan, when should i do it? now? or give them small notice about it. If i do move out now, i do risk them "not letting me" since im 17. i dont want to hurt our relationship, i just want to grow up and start life. Any help apprecd.

yeah im abit liimited on how much of my situation i can add on here but, i have been working two jobs for 3 years and have saved every dime i could. i also have finished highschool and i wish to attend college in CA. i do not like any schools around here that i toured.

Also i have been debating this move and researching about this for about a year and a half, so i realize how expensive it is and how much minimum wage is.

And Jerry T thanks for the sarcastic answer and By the way its spelled Fantasy, and maybe you should realize we are NOT on the same level and intelligence at the same age all the time, some are ready to begin their life earlier then others, please have more respect. I have been investing in Realestate, and working learning a variety of skills such as roofing, painting, carpenty, CNC machining, welding, etc.

investing in realestate with my father that is, obviously i couldnt sign a legal document.

Answer 1

You sound like you have a very good head on your shoulders. I know 3 months seems like a long time, but I would wait till then before moving. It's a good idea to tell your parents now, to both prepare them and yourself. Go at your own pace, don't allow pressure from your friend to push you out before you and your parents are thoroughly prepared for this major life transition. Remember, it's a major life transition, and should be prepared for.

Answer 2

Ok now everybody will be mad at me . I say just keep saving money,and talk to your parents.Dont try to freak them out just bring it up real calmly.Do not join the military thats just a good way to get hurt or killed,I have alot of family in the military and they are all miserable with post traumatic stress.You have a life to live so plan well ,save you money and buy a trunk or box and start buying dishes forks sheets ,towels,pans All the stuff you need because once you get out there under your own roof rent will take up all your money and you will need things like toasters and coffeepots if you drink coffee.Also find out right now if you are on your mom and dads health insurance and get anything they can afford to get you right now.Get new glasses if you need them get your teeth fixed or cleaned because as soon as you turn 18 you will lose this most likely so if you want to do this plan well.I wouldnt do it right this moment you have a lot of ducks to get in a row.Best wishs .I moved out at seventeen and i sure wish somebody had exsplained this to me .Also I dont suggest moving so far away the first time you move out.Try getting an apartment across town from your folks first.You would surprised how much you still need your parents even then.All it takes is one serious car accident and realizing how bad you really do need your parents closeby ,at least give it a trial run where your at before you move a thousand miles away.

Answer 3

Have you demonstrated to your parents that you're a responsible person? Do you have a job where you live? At 17, you're probably still in school and if you're not, you should be. You don't get far without an education. What kind of job would your friend be able to get for you in CA? Having someone as a friend and living with that person are really two entirely different things. Since you'll be 18 in 3 months, why not just wait?
You definitely SHOULD NOT be living with your parents till you're 30. I know that's not what you want either.
Part of me says to follow your dreams, go to California. The other part (the older adult part) says to know as much as you can about the situation before doing it. Good luck no matter what you choose.

Answer 4

That's a toughy. I am 29 now and moved out when I was 17 years old. I moved in with my boyfriend at the time (later my husband, now ex-husband, but that is usually the way it works out when you get married at 18- but that's another posting :)

I know you hate to listed to your parents but they will be correct in saying it is much harder than you could ever imagine. In my situation because of my relationship with my mother it was probably the best thing for me to move out. I do not regret it. However, if I had a more supportive mom I would have been better off staying there.

Honestly, it will be a learning experience for you either way. If you stay you'll waste a lot of time daydreaming about cali. If you leave more than likely you will regret it and want to go back home.

If you decide to move just go ahead and tell them now. Don't spring it on them the last minute. Give them a little while to get used to the idea.

Answer 5

I am wondering if you finished high school? Have you been working and saved money to go to live so far away from your parents? If you do move with your friend why is she getting you the job? What kind of job and how much will you be making. Do you have any idea the cost of living in Ca.? What will your transportation be in Ca.? Do you now own a car and pay for your own insurance on the car? Who is going to pay for moving your belongings to Ca.? Why leave your parents in the dark about your plans? Tell them what you are planning and if you have everything worked out as to how you will live. If you have the right answers and are prepared perhaps they would be more willing to give you their blessings. I think that you haven't got everything planned out.. Oh by the way you will have to have money up front to have gas and electric in your names turned on. Perhaps other things like a month of rent in advance. A lease for a year or maybe two years and what if it doesn't work out.. you will be stuck with a bill for the lease time and you may not be there? So many things to think about ahead of time.

Answer 6

If you can stay at home longer, and you like it I would because you will save money. I didn't have that option. However, being out on your own is better than anything in the world, just be strong because there are things that you will have to learn and troubles that you will run into. But that would happen no matter what age you move out because you need to experience things to really know or understand. Like financially I sucked a s s and went into debt I am still paying for it! SO be warned. But move out dude, cause it is pretty great feeling of freedom.

Answer 7

Do you have any idea how expensive it is to live in California? Two people could not afford to share a tent. Especially your age. Your idea is not real bright.

You really want to go to Cali and be able to live at your age...join the military..it is the only way you will be able to afford it. I left home at 19, when I enlisted. Could not have done it any other way.

Don't rush your youth away, that is what will happen if you leave, go to college, get a job, save some money, then consider it

Answer 8

On the down side, if you leave while you're 17, there are documents you can't legally sign, or contracts you can't be involved in; this might make a big move and rental responsibilities difficult.

I left home at 18 and did just fine. I'd say just wait the few extra months. In the grand scheme of things, it really won't be that long. Hang in there.

Answer 9

you should do it when you turn 18... legally your not allowed to move without your parents consent ,untill your 18..second you should earn some money first... im telling you, it ain't so easy... anything could happen out there without money... think ahead and make plans.. what if something happens and you can't live with your friend anymore.. think about.. by the way im 17 and i'll be 18 in about two months.. i live in nyc and i plan to move after im 18.. but im gonna get a job for a couple of months b4 i do that... that way, if i loose my job when i get my apartment, i'll have some money saved up

Answer 10

what is 3 months in the grand span of a lifetime. maybe they are planning a real big birthday party for you? Don't take that away from them. Afterwards then move out when you are officially 18.

I will tell you that California is EXPENSIVE and living with someone doesn't always work out...even when your just friends. Honestly, don't you ever watch any of those court shows?