ive been with my lad for 4 years and hes my best mate, for the past year i have wanted out of our relationship and ive been thinkin i should have a bit of fun as im still young and im not sure of my feelings for him now, ive recently found he's been texting some girl behind my back and it didnt sound like they were jus friends. This has happened 4 times in 4 years. Should i end the relationship or not? shall i give him ANOTHER chance?
2006-08-29 13:47:55 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-29 13:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Interesting question when considering I am about to text my response to you. Is it possible that best mate means lover or perhaps best friend. If it is a friend then my advice is not to get so worked up about it in that your relationship is equal. However; if he is your lover and what he is doing sounds more like he is chumming for a better relationship, then I would consider moving onward. My question too you is are you looking for an excuse to leave him only to have your much needed fun. I say this because I don't know of any woman who would address their mate as a lad and expect anything good to become of it.
2006-08-29 14:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Fresh choice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that trust is one of the most important thing in a relationship. If you don't think you can trust him or you both can't work out your problems then it is time to say good bye. Another important item in a relationship is communication...maybe the 2 of you should sit down and talk first to see if there is any chance of getting over this and working through your problems...
Good Luck!
2006-08-29 13:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by Jesabel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definatley end it! when you get to that point when you are questioning whether you want to be with your guy, then you shoundn't be together. it sounds like it'l be better for both of you, as like you say you're only young, and there are plenty of guys out there who you will be sure of your feelings towards. and the fact that his texting some other girl shows he's probably not as dedicated to the relationship as you would like your other half to be. You should be the only one his texting in that way, and if he says they're just friends, why would it be behind you're back? end it now!
2006-08-29 14:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to give him another chance, when you aren't feeling the same for him or sure if you want to find another lad. Perhaps go with your gut feeling on this. If he has possibly had more then just friends while with you, it probably will continue.
2006-08-29 13:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sweet dont bother if this has happened 4 times in 4 years, then why are you putting up with it, if you wernt sure after the first time then after the second you should of dumped him he will never stop, get out NOW & dont look back, hes just a loser,
2006-08-29 13:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm easier said than done isnt it ?, if you know for definate that hes been unfaithfull, then personally id get well rid, and if you feel youve,wanted to get out of this relationship for the past year ,, get out now while your still young have some fun and flirt, etc you only live once ,lifes too short , go with your instincts..x
2006-08-29 14:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by madmarie666@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want out he is texting some other girl. are you waiting for a brick to hit you in the head? say good by and good luck and don't look back the timing is perfect. remember when 1 door closes another 1 opens.
2006-08-29 13:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by basque girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've already made up your mind what you want to do, but if it was me, I would call him on the carpet, and let him explain the texts. If you don't like his answer, then make your move. Could all be a big misunderstanding!
2006-08-29 13:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his hairy hole to the kerb. I cheated on my wife, and with the best intentions and promises that i would never do it again. I did several times. Its a compulsion regardless whether you are married or not. Happy or miserable, Good luck hun. Its a toughie.
2006-08-29 13:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should confront him about it. Ask him how does he feel about the relationship and where does he think the relationship is heading to. Ask him about the girl he's texting and ask him whether he got any feelings for that girl... After knowing all the answers to these questions i think you should be smart enought to answer ur question urself.
2006-08-29 19:36:16 · answer #11 · answered by Abel Blessed Lim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋