how do i win him back?

Question

recently the man i was seeing had to break it off because his wife caught wind of his activities, i'm in 20's, he is 14y older. Was very passionate and loving relationship but essentially chose his children over me, (which he should have anyway). But how can I make him see that if they are that unhappily married, he can have both his children and me and his relationship with the mum will be healthier down the line because even before this they were really not to happy or getting along. I miss him heaps and know he does to...

Answer 1

learn the art of letting go. holding him tight will not do any good for both of you. let him be himself again. and, in the end, if both of you are destined to be together, then be it. everything has it's own, right time.

Answer 2

The ultimate answer here is "If this man is willing to cheat on his wife for you, what makes you think he's not going to do it to you?"
You can't win him back. He has to make the decision. He is a big boy and if he can have a side relationship he can deal with it in a responsible manner. You need to lay it on the line for him. Ya know, put the basketball in his court. Tell him that you want to have a relationship with him but he has to make the call. I know that you may not want to do that because you don't want to force him to do something, but if the relationship is what you say it is you should be able to talk to him about anything. If, when you do "put the ball in his court" he chooses you, he is a serious man about the relationship. If he doesn't choose you then move on and forget about it. Everyone makes mistakes in their life. Is having a relationship with a married man what you really want for your dignity though? What might you tell someone(other than this guy) about your past relationships. All I'm saying is that you might not want to do this again because you see how much it hurts you and him, his wife, and their kids.

Answer 3

Hello scroxme_038,

I hate to say this, but you really need to forget him and try to find an unattached man that can really love you. There are plenty of them out there. You only need to get out and be seen by them.

I know that deep down inside, you are doing this because you don't really want a heavy relationship, and you get off on the idea of being so sexy that you can make this guy do these crazy things for you.

Well, there are plenty of guys that don't want a heavy relationship either and would be just as much your slave. But, don't be messing with this married guy, because this will screw up his marriage and his kids.

Come on, baby. Be nice.

--Rick

Answer 4

where is 'you' in this question...seems like you're thinking about his life a little too much and you should think more about 'you' - and I dare say you deserve someone who you can have completely and someone who has integrity and can be yours from the start. He may be great for you but there are plenty of great guys out there. Time to put yourself up on the pedastool me thinks

Answer 5

First of all he's married....second of all he's married...... third of all he's married. What are you thinking. If he's married what makes you think he couls have a serious relationship with you. Obviously he's not a very honest person.

Answer 6

Been there, you can't make him see, he has to realize it on his own and who knows if he ever will. I would run quickly away from this situation. You will never truly have him as yours.

Answer 7

Im not trying to spread islam my religion..
but.. here comes my religion
i suggest you both you and him become muslims and belive me its allowed to marry till four females.
i hope i wont find nay one sarcasm my opinion because im serious and im not making joke now .
my respect to christians
bye