20 year relationship ends with my partner cheating on me, in my own house, in my own bed. 5 year old twins now live with mum 50% and me 50%. More hurt for them than me but how do I learn to trust again, if at all ?
2006-08-29 13:45:19 · 8 answers · asked by THE BIG O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was never wounded remotely in the way you were, but I have been hurt.
I tried the dark, gloomy, distrusting, sheltered thing for a while, and it kept me plenty safe. Too safe. I was painless, but also without pleasure and above all, lonely.
It took a number of philosophical conversations with myself, but eventually I decided that in order to ever find happiness, I'd have to trust blindly in the sort of human nature I wish everyone had. I mean, I'm not naive, but if someone earns a modicum of my trust, I give them a heap of it, at least where my emotions are concerned.
I've been hurt since, but it hasn't been nearly as bad. I've had friends and love to help me wade through the mire, and I only have them because I was so willing to trust and care.
I can't tell you how badly I feel for you, but you can become stronger as a result of your heartbreak. Please try.
2006-08-29 13:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you ... the same thing happen to my aunt.. She been going out with her husband for ten years and he cheated with my cousin who is 17 year minor so it was really painful for her and she was pregnant 4 month with her first daugther at that time....After seven years passed she went out again and ended 5 years with that guy cheated with her best friend... So really she decided to put her time in her daugther and never trust any men again... In the end she happy being single mom.... I hope sharing this story will help you feel better because it happen to other people and in the end bad things happen to the person who hurts us the most...
2006-08-29 14:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal your pain. Learn to live again, on your own. Get out with friends, and enjoy time with your twins. Someone will come along who can show you how to trust again.
2006-08-29 13:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Egads. i do no longer think of it truly is possible to make this artwork. it truly is not only about cheating - he under no circumstances instructed you the finished fact. You had to confirm from a pal, or maybe then, he persevered to cover fact from you. If he grew to become into quite committed to you, he does no longer have so actively pursued this woman, pretended his relationship with you probably did no longer exist, proceed to attempt to pursue a "friendship" together with her inspite of her rejection of him, does no longer act jealous approximately her friendships with different adult adult males, or proceed to cover his movements from you. ignore attempting to choose even if if or no longer he's in love together with her. that doesn't count, because of the fact he's clearly no longer in love with you. Drop his sorry b*tt.
2016-11-06 01:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness takes time especially in your situation, but I hope you can find it eventually. I can't begin to imagine the pain you and your family is going through.
2006-08-29 13:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Oklahoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really hurtful...but i dont know what to say its really hard to trust after all that
2006-08-29 13:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by xsxsxsx36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks but it happens.
just be glad it wasnt your best friend with her
2006-08-29 13:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel sorry for you!! that really stinks.
2006-08-29 13:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by Telma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋