all she does is pay attention to the baby. she basically breastfeeds the baby to sleep then goes to sleep herself. the babys only two days old and it already sucks to be a parent. what should i do so she like pays more attention to me?
2006-08-29 13:33:06 · 17 answers · asked by Sweet 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
No offense , but as a father of four kids, forget about it. No Mother will ever put any other human being ahead of the child she carried and birthed. It's ok, things will get to the point where you will be helping more, and she will have time to pay more attention to you. Right now though, and for a while (different for each Mother, and each birth) you will need to be the one paying all the attention. Sorry. I recommend you find a good book, stay near the diaper bag, and be ready to run to the store at a moments notice. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's the only advice I can give you with my wife standing behind me...........holding a gun to my head. :0)
2006-08-29 13:42:52 · answer #1 · answered by detecting_it 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all it takes alot out of her to breastfeed. Her body is still trying to get over the tramau of having a baby. Maybe, if you gave her attention first then you would get some. Try rubbing her back while shes feeding the baby. Maybe, get her to let you feed the baby by putting breast milk in a bottle. But, right now shes the one who needs the attention. How would you feel if you just gave birth?
2006-08-29 13:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by smiley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit being selfish.
Your baby is 48 hours old and you're jealous of it? Grow up!
Taking care of a child is a fulltime job and your wife is doing exactly what mom's are supposed to do in the first week. She carried that child for 9 months and her body is recuperating from the stress. The advice given to new moms when they leave the hospital is to nurse ON DEMAND and SLEEP WHEN THE BABY SLEEPS. Do you know why? Because mom will be the one getting up 90% of the time to take care of the baby in the middle of the night.
Now, after this babymoon is over, you might try doing sweet things like spending time with your child and giving her a chance to do something for herself. Show her you love her and your baby and she'll pay attention to you to.
Instead of being jealous of your newborn why don't you join your wife in snuggling the baby and bonding. That's what daddy's do.
2006-08-29 13:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you want her to pay attention to you, then pay attention to her needs. The woman just gave birth. Go try running a marathon for 9 months and see how you feel.
Don't be an arss!!! You're the one acting like a baby. Try being a father... and a husband. Maybe you'll get some attention.
2006-08-29 13:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by Metalhead 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her about your feelings. Being a parent is great but parents need to remember to keep their relationship strong and loving too, because it is their love that brought their babies into the world so it's best for baby and parents to keep the whole family unit strong and loving. For right now though, she's probably exhausted and needs her sleep, so give it a while and then make sure she knows how you feel.
Congratulations on your bundle of joy!!
2006-08-29 13:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Free Spirit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you can't expect attention when you have a kid on your hands. They require a whole bunch of attention. If you want some attention try to watch the kid for awhile so your wife can get some rest, after all she was the one pushing it out of her so i think that would need some R&R time. I think after a while tho i'm sure you'll be fine. Just remember, babies CANNOT be controled! So don't think about your missing out on attention, just missing out on some fun playing with your new child. Have fun and take care! CONGRATS!! God Bless!
2006-08-29 13:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by texansinger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Her major preoccupation is caring for a new infant. Your major occupation should be caring for *her*, and taking up the slack wherever you can. You're a grown man, and you should no longer need "attention".
You see, you are now a team, with the object of raising a child. This is what it means to be a parent, and an adult.
Congratulations on your new son or daughter.
2006-08-29 13:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i trust that in the journey that your infant is in ordinary words some days previous that you're being type of egocentric. Your spouse purely went through an extremely demanding ordeal on her body with the delivery and she is breastfeeding too it really is draining her. Then the baby wakes up and uncomplicated situations and desires interest it really is wearing your spouse out even extra. I were there two times. After childbirth, you're fairly wiped out and drained for all time. Are you helping her out with different kinfolk chores like laundry, cooking, cleansing etc so as that she is in a position to spotlight resting to get her power back? supply her a touch time and she will be in a position to commence paying extra interest to you back. even even with the undeniable fact that, she will be in a position to propably not be in a position to spend a similar volume as formerly, because toddlers (exceptionally toddlers and toddlers) desires a lot of interest. you're gonna ought to appreciate it really is portion of parenthood.
2016-12-05 22:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like maybe you suck in a different way. Don't u know your wife is exhausted? Sounds like maybe you are the bigger baby also. She needs your help and love, so does the baby. Grow up and become a real parent.
2006-08-29 13:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like she has 2 babies in the house, one is just bigger than the other...
What did you expect, the kid would pop out full grown & need no care?
Try helping her, learn to change diapers, burp the baby, be a Husband and DAD instead of a sperm donor!
2006-08-29 13:41:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋