After about a year and 4 months i actually found a guy that i REALLY like and i can actually see more than just a couple weeks with him. We have going out now for 3 weeks, not long, but i just know i am sooo into him and i dont see it ending anytime soon. But i constantly am wondering if he doesnt feel the same way. Like he smokes weed and when he does he doesn't pay as much attention to me and i know thats because hes high but i just worry that he doesnt like me. and then last night he said "we have the house to ourselves for a couple hours and looked at me" and looked at me like we were going to fool around or something and then he got up and started cleaning? and then tonight i was originally supposed to go hang with a friend but i cancelled bc i wasnt feeling up to doing anything. and i asked him earlier if he wanted to do something and it seemed like he was up for. and about 20 minutes ago he changed his mind to just maybe...im scared he doesnt feel the same way. is it just me?
2006-08-29 12:56:55 · 14 answers · asked by cunfuzd15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try being optimistic.. it'll do you good.
2006-08-29 13:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Maria18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it's not just you. Sounds like he's not trying that hard to impress you. Don't waste your time. If he's changing his mind to "maybe" after only 3 weeks... he's not that into you. I'm sorry. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings... but the worst thing you could do is get your heart all wrapped up into someone who doesn't seem that interested. If he was into he would treat you with respect and go out of his way to impress you and show you a good time. he would go out of his way to see you and spend time with you. You would KNOW if he was into you. There wouldn't be a doubt in your mind. Here's a tip... act busy. As a matter of fact, keep yourself busy doing other things and hanging out with other people... if he's interested then HE'LL make the effort to meet YOU when YOU want too.
Best wishes.
2006-08-29 13:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you only recently met maybe you are expecting a little too much of this guy. Especally give that he is a pot smoker and may lack ambition and normal thought processes. Why don't you relax and just continue to explore how you feel and his reaction to you. Or you could just tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. Since he is a guy you may not get exactly the answer you are looking for but there may at least be an indication.
2006-08-29 13:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kenneth H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...hmm...tough one. how old is your boyfriend and how old are you? if this guy is smoking weed more than he's paying attention to you, that means that somethings wrong there. now i know you can't change how you feel about this guy, but if you could, ask yourself this: would you still like him? maybe you should try talking to him about how he feels. maybe he has some problems at home or something? who knows! a true relationship involves two people who can tell eachother everything, which includes how they feel about each other. good luck with this!
2006-08-29 13:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by love_me_4_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel I am going through the same thing and I am 26 yrs. old. Just start doing you and hold out on the sex and then see what he has to say, if he goes and gets it from somewhere else then you know that he is a scrub.
2006-08-29 13:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol.........damn the whole cleanin thing was funny.....y wouldnt he wanna fool around? i mean not actually do it.... but whats wrong with a lil foolin around??.....that prob. suxed for u huh!! did he say anything else??..........oh n about the goin out part!! never put ur bf before friends!! i mean u should have a life too other than just with him......go and hangout just like apperently he is......maybe he is into u but doesnt wanna seem needy....u shouldnt either....stop bein paranoid until he actually says something about it.......
2006-08-29 13:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes tripping because of the weed that he is smoking.
2006-08-29 13:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in love with a girl called Mary Jane.
2006-08-29 13:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wont read that!!! u must have spent like 1 hour writin that question, b8t iom guessin he is not into u, i wouldnt be into someone who writes that much stuff, i can barely write my name
this is another stupid answer by:
Saint Jimmy
P.s: bush is a terrorist
P.s2: ritalin is a great gift from heaven... to me
2006-08-29 12:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend was in the same situation and all i can say is get out of it as soon as u can its not worth it try to get over it quickly
Good luck
2006-08-29 13:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by rep da yay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to drive him away by being too possessive
2006-08-29 12:59:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋