My husband and I have been trying to conceive a child for over 2 years now with no luck. I'm saddened enough that we have not been able to bring a child into our lives yet, but this feeling is made worse by all the "when are you guys going to have kids" when we attend a family function. I smile and say "when the time is right", but some are persistant with questions such as " are you even trying" , " is something wrong with one of you". I realize some people might mean well, but I find it rude, especially since they have all been told on previous occasions that we are trying, and that they would all be told if/when we conceive. How can I respond to people without hurting feelings/making an uncomfortable situation but at the same time letting them know it's not something I want to talk about? I would greatly appreciate any advice. Hubby too, is very annoyed by this.
2006-08-29 12:56:02 · 12 answers · asked by Sunnyshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hubby is more aggressive in his response to their rude questions than I am. He just remains annoyed by it too, because it happens EVERYTIME we see them, regardless of how many times they've asked before.
2006-08-29 13:11:55 · update #1
Look at them as if you dont hear them,or change the subject completely,with a question directed at them.Answer their question with a question.They are very rude to pry into your life.
2006-08-29 13:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sherry H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh don't I know this to well.It very painful.Because you want to have a baby and it not happening.Then you have family members ask the baby question.But you know what else hurt when other family member announce their having a baby.My father made a joke and said my husband was shooting blank.I was told to adopt.That was the last thing I wanted to hear.Family member can be insensitive.You and your husband made have to sit your in law down.Tell them you would like for them to stop asking the baby question.When that day happen you will let them know.If you would like them to know how it make you feel then do so,where they can understand,so they want think you just being rude.Right now it very emotion for you all and they need to respect that.I hope this help.
2006-08-29 23:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by 40something 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people who persist in asking you those questons are extremely rude.
Just smile and say we're working on it.
Or we're practicing as much as we can.
Or why in the world would ask such a personal question.
Or say something that would absolutely stop them in their tracks with embarrassment.
Actually it really is no one else's business. It's personal & private information shared between you and your husband.'
2006-08-29 20:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply say " I thought I mentioned that we are trying. Geez with all this pressure no wonder the kids don't want to be conceived." Say it with a little smile but make sure they know you really are serious. Have you gone to a fertility clinic to see if there are any problems? Good luck. :)
2006-08-29 20:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think a lil shock therapy would be in order. Next time old Aunt Thelma comes up and asks when are you getting pregnant tell her you can't and can she suggest some good possitions? Sometimes ppl just need to be made to realise their words are rude.
2006-08-29 20:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I think your husband needs to figure out how to set the situation straight with everyone. They are being hurtful, intentional or not. I know how you feel (so does my wife). They definately need to be gently confronted by one of you (preferably your husband, as the leader of the house).
2006-08-29 20:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by ScottyJae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very rude. These questions are out of order.
Your husband is the one who has to get his family under control. He needs to tell them that it isn't any of their business and that they should stop asking. Dealing with his family is his job. Dealing with your family is your job.
2006-08-29 20:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look at them straight in the eye and calmly say, "that's a very personal question." then watch them fall all over themselves trying to apologize for and/or rationalize their behavior.
smile and say nothing, then turn around or walk away and start talking to someone else.
2006-08-29 20:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by miss advice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them when you become pregnant you will let them know other than that ignore them.
2006-08-29 20:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by KEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them when their gonna have their next kid. That will shut them up
2006-08-29 20:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by FootballFan1012 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋