I am a bridesmaid at my best friend's wedding and she has agreed to throw her bouquet to me. Will my b/f understand the significance or will I have to somehow get it into his brain beforehand?
2006-08-29 12:38:03 · 32 answers · asked by poppy vox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
LMAO Men never take hints not even if you slap them in the face with it (the bouquet), if you want to marry him why not ask him !
2006-08-30 01:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You say he wants to get married eventually, so why are you so desperate to get him to propose right now?
My fiancé and I had talked about getting married "at some point" for ages, we knew we would but he waited until he was really ready to propose - and when he did it scared me silly for a few hours, even though I wanted to marry him too. Your boyfriend will also propose in his own sweet time if it's really what he wants.
Don't try to push him into it, don't forget that marriage is a huge thing and needs to be thought through properly and that that takes some people longer than others. It's about so much more than a big day with a nice dress (great as that is!) and if he's said that he wants to marry you eventually then he's actually showing you a great deal of respect by treating it as a big deal.
2006-08-29 21:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catching the bouquet is not, to the best of my knowledge, a substitute for a proposal. Speaking from the guy's perspective, if I was dating a girl whom I was not ready to marry and I learned that she plotted with a friend to get the bouquet as a "hint" to me, it would make me wonder whether or not my girlfriend was on a whole different timeline than me.
When I was ready to get married, I was ready and so was my now-wife. Bouquet catching not required.
Open and honest communication beats the crap out of subterfuge.
2006-08-29 19:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Andy G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriendWILL understand. One thing you shouldnt do, is give lots of heavy hints. He probably wont mention it, but you could say something like, "those flowera are really lovely" I make a good catch dont I? (Double meaning) then leave it if he doesnt say anything. Meanwhile enjoy the day, it may well be you throwing the bouquet next year!
2006-08-29 20:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by cornishmaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think everyone knows what catching a bouquet means. This does not, however, mean that the person is to be married next. It's just a silly tradition. He'll ask when he's ready to ask, no catching of flowers required.
2006-08-29 12:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by emily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he will understand it, everyone knows that. If not, just casually mention that it means you will be the next one to get married.
However, if this means you want to get married and the b/f doesn't, it is time for 'NEXT!'. Don't slide into a pathetic tangle of hints and emotional blackmail trying to bring about a proposal. If you really love him and want to marry him there is nothing stopping you from saying so in an honest and dignified fashion. Once you have though, be aware there is nowhere else to go - once a proposal is made and refused it is the end of the relationship in its current form.
2006-08-29 13:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by TC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down and talk to your boyfriend, I think he will see through your 'cunning scheme', also getting your mate to throw you the bouquet is mean to the other single gals wanting and waiting to catch the bouquet hoping that they're next, remeber catching the bouquete isnt a legally binding contract!
2006-08-29 12:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, like they said above, guys are pretty stupid when it comes to taking hints, he'll probably just think it was "funny" that you caught it.. not that he should propose. Try dropping other hints if you want a proposal that bad - leave some bridal mags laying around the house or keep telling him what kind of diamond engagement ring you would love someday... I'm sure that'll get the point across!
2006-08-29 16:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by an1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when you catch the bouquet. Just say in a humorous tone "now we have to get married!" if he thinks you are kidding then you can just ask the person next to you to give confirmation.
2006-08-30 00:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by Emma-Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At my sister's wedding both she and her husband conspired together to throw the boquet and the garter to people they were trying to hook up. I don't think it's wrong- messing with who gets the boquet is something that I think it fairly common, rightly or not. I don't know that he'll take the hint though. I'm sure he probably knows what it's supposed to mean, but not a lot of people take it seriously. You'd probably have better luck just talking to him
2006-08-29 18:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he wont get it, men dont think like us and you are much better being upfront. My husband gets so frustrated with my hint dropping as he never gets them!! I have learned to just say what it is i want. Just ask him if he thinks one day you two will get married, ask at the wedding (everyone gets whimsical at weddings) ask it in a lighthearted way and see what happens. Have a lovely day x
2006-08-29 20:57:07 · answer #11 · answered by ducky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋