my boyfriend i like my boyfriend very much but he wants to have sex and i am not ready and he keep harrasing me about it and i dont want to but i love him and i dont want to do that till i am married and then he proposed do you think it just to get in my pants or what please help me out
2006-08-29 12:34:58 · 30 answers · asked by lala the bueaty andpretty gal@! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good for you.
But you need to find someone who respects your decision to wait until marriage.
2006-08-29 12:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is just trying to get what he wants from you. Sorry to tell you this, but if he can't respect the fact that you want to wait, he's a dog and not worth your time. You should never compromise your beliefs and your values for some guy. Don't ever let anyone make you feel bad because you stand up for what you believe in. Your making a smart choice. Sex can change a relationship, and until you're with the man you want to spend your life with, don't waste your time. It's not worth the worry of getting pregnant, getting a disease, or getting dumped and feeling like crap because you were pressured into something. My advice? Ditch this loser. There are plenty of good guys out there who will respect you for who you are and for what you believe.
2006-08-29 12:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're driving him crazy. Tell him to go somewhere else, because that's what he wants. If you want to wait for marriage, then he should move on. Sex is a healthy part of having a relationship. In my opinion, everyone over the age of 18 should have sex with their partner for 2 reasons:
1. it's fun
2. you can solve a lot of your relationships' problems with it. It's the glue that keeps mature adults(18+) together.
If it's not for you, then it's not. I respect that.
Tell him you can't change just for him, and he should respect that. If he doesn't, he won't ever respect you. Good luck.
Oh, and love doesn't exist(only in fairy tales). Ask the experts.
2006-08-29 12:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Matt Beezy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen, stick to your stand. What is at stake is your level of self worth and self esteem. If you break your word with yourself, you will pay the Price in the form of guilt"ego", shame, blame, right , wrong forever in your memory. You are now responsible to take the stand for now and today. If your boyfriend truly loved you he would respect you and your decision. If he can't handle the urge how do you think he will handle tough issues in a marriage, he will cave in do to the lack of strength and patience. I know a couple that had the same issue. They made it. They bought a home before marriage, slept in the same room in separate beds, prepared for the wedding in advance and now have two teenagers. They are very happy and love each other with passion and admiration because they respected each others worth. Don't give in you will regret it. If he wanders let him go, if he stays and perseveres keep him.
2006-08-29 12:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by mikey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guy's go to great lengths to get what they want, I would stick to what I said and dont have sex til your married. If he is the one you love then tell him yes to his marriage question but tell him that he is not getting it til the wedding night. I would also make sure the wedding is not around the corner either, like next weekend, not good. Good luck.
2006-08-29 12:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stuff him love, wait to ur married :)good girl im 22 :) and the same as u, forget it wait for when you ready or married . If he cant respect u then he dnt love u. Theres plenty of guys out there , and yes there all pigs but if u find the right one then he will respect u :) good luck
2006-08-29 12:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by shy pie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he proposed, then he can just wait till after the marriage. Don't give in. Do what you feel is the best for you.
2006-08-29 12:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by Richard B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not love; it is selfish pressure. Tell him to get lost. He doesn't care about you, only about himself. Here is a quote from the Bible that you need to keep in mind:
“Love is patient; love is kind
and envies no one.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
never selfish, not quick to take offense.
There is nothing love cannot face;
there is no limit to its faith,
its hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things
that last forever: faith, hope, and love;
but the greatest of them all is love.”
2006-08-29 12:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't sleep with him until you are actually married,,,, that would be the best,,,,i wish i waited till i was married,,, it would have been so much more special,,,,,just keep on waiting,, it will be worth it in the long run,, and if he really loves you he will marry you,, not just try to get in your pants,,,,,,
2006-08-29 12:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by mami 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I know you may love your boyfriend. But if he keeps harassing you and forcing you into sex then he doesn't really love you. He just wants to have sex. If he really loved you he would respect you and if you don't want to he won't make you. So I would just brake up with him.
2006-08-29 12:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Kara R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's just to get in your pants. I'm disappoitnted that he's harrassing you about this. If you are not ready then don't give it up to him no matter what. You will regret it.
2006-08-29 12:38:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋