How do I get him to open up to me and tell me what he is feeling or what he wants. It seems as if he just expects me to know what he is thinking or what he wants me to do. And that give too much room for misinterpretation. And then he gets mad when I do something wrong or I don't know what he is talking about. And he says I should already know. It took him almost 5 years to refer to me as his girlfriend. And still now some of his friends don't even know about me. Am I wasting my time...or is he just being careful. Could he be hiding something? What approch should I use...cause right now he just brushes it off like there isn't a problem.
2006-08-29 12:27:02 · 9 answers · asked by SadBrownEyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't really seem like a relationship... I would say that he just has issues admitting his feelings but if some of his friend still don't know about you that's weird. If he is just being careful, thats WAY to careful to the point of paranoia and he needs help for that.
You should be completely open and honest about how you feel about the way he acts and the way he treats you. If he tries to brush it off, tell him blunty (w/o being rude) that it IS a problem. Once you two start talking, you'll know if you're wasting time or not. If he still refuses to talk to you about it, then I would definately say its a waste of time because a relationship is 2-sided and each side needs to acknowledge and listen to the other's feelings and problems.
2006-08-29 12:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Reeses_Pieces_98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going to type of relate to you. the guy i'm in love with is 5 years older than me. i'm 15, he's 20. we are now unlikely to be mutually till i'm 16 even with the undeniable fact that, till then we are going to easily chat on line, as we met. we've met in individual formerly even with the undeniable fact that. yet my mom got here across out and were given really mad. To me, the age distinction is... proper. you've all started puberty, and seem mature, and some women do develop really early. It relies upon the way you met, no matter if he knew your age once you met. there is an excellent type of aspects that remember. also, it type of feels slightly not likely he will surely wait till you're 18 to have sex. it really is a lengthy time period, and also you could be fairly particular for him to do this. not affirming you at the on the spot are not particular, this is purely, you do not look to have commonly used him for a lengthy time period- how could he locate you so particular? it really is a remember of believe. you could placed an excellent type of believe into him for this to artwork. you could purely be naive, or he could purely be extremely in love with you. i wish each little thing works out, and that i wish you aren't getting damage. do purely not enable him stress you into something.
2016-12-05 22:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your boyfriend is 7 years older than you is an irrelevance. You will have a good relationship with a guy who is compatible with you,which your current boyfriend doesn't seem to be.If he really loved you he would be happy to tell all his friends about you,and would be prepared to be open with you.The fact that he isn't speaks volumes.
2006-08-29 12:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the problem is, it took 5 yrs to acknowledge you as a girl friend, now you must also be a mind reader, but if you don't put a stop to this, your relationship with be on the curbside come garbage day.
he needs to go to counselling to learn how to express his feeling
2006-08-29 12:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's older he does expect you to know as much as him. Your wasting your time because the age difference is obviously the reason for the miscommunication.
2006-08-29 12:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause he's 7 years older than u
2006-08-29 12:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard
my boyfriend and i are 4 yrs apart and have a lot of differances.
i still cant figure it out
2006-08-29 12:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a relationship, it's a puzzle.
2006-08-29 12:31:34 · answer #8 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him what is wrong b honest
2006-08-29 12:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by tigers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋