How should a mother handle a 14 year old son that curses her out and spits on her?

Answer 1

BOOT CAMP, sit down have a talk, it's straighten up or boot camp.

Answer 2

Are you a single parent? That is especially difficult with a teenager. Do you have anyone who can help you out with this, a brother, a cousin, your dad. You need help here, because he is or soon will be, bigger than you are. No child should be swearing and spitting at his mother. I would be going to the police and telling them what is going on, possibly an officer can have a bit of a talk with your son and make him realize that he will be going to a "Brat Camp." He could be looking at juvenile detention or being sent away to camp if this type of action continues. You do not deserve to be mistreated in this way. You can also look up Dr. Phil on line and he will be able to get you some help, as he has done it for many people in the past. I would've ended up with having my mouth washed out with soap if I had ever acted like that, but then again although I knew that my parents loved me, I knew what the boundaries were and that would have been beyond any boundary that they would have set. I always knew that they carried through with what they said, and I would be punished as they saw fit, grounding or whatever. It does sound as if your son has been out of your control for awhile, so now it's going to be a lot more difficult to solve the problem. Good luck to you both.

Answer 3

If you take your left arm and bend it at the elbow forcing it against your son's Adams apple and push him against a wall this will get his attention. Then almost simultaneously reach down and connect your right hand vigorously to his testicles and squeeze gingerly. If he isn't groaning in pain, you aren't squeezing nearly hardly enough. Then spit in his face and bite him on the nose until it bleeds profusely and then scream in his ear that if he ever raises a hand to you, or curses at you or spits at you again he will never ever be able to have a normal marital relationship with anyone and if he lives you are prepared to kill him and he will never know when it is coming.

Then here is the hard part, DO IT !!!!!!! You are the alpha dog, the family head it's your choice.

If the cops come, you don't know anything, you don't have to say anything. If the son proclaims abuse, allow him to prove it. When asked about his nose, just say he could have fallen down, you don't know. Nothing will happen to you. Then when the cops leave, take a baseball bat to him and proceed to address the respect you are entitled to.

Answer 4

Tell him if he can't be respectful of you and the things you do for him, you are going on strike. The next time he gets out of line, tell him you are on strike for a week. If he doesn't think he needs you, let him find out what it is like to live without you. Make dinner for the family and let him find his own food. Do the laundry and leave his clothes on the floor. Stop driving him anywhere. Don't pick up after him. Don't even talk to him except to remind him that you are on strike.

I did that to my Son 15 years ago and it put a real knot in his tail. After that I didn't get anymore crap from him. And now we have a good relationship with mutual respect.

If that doesn't work, go the tough love route as people have suggested above.

By the way, are you getting any emotional support from his Father? Does he show you respect? Will he help you with this problem child? At that age, he may listen more to his Father, and his Dad needs to back you up.

Good luck.

Answer 5

There are some good ideas here about boot camp and all. I don't agree with calling the police, once you open that door it is hard to close.

This politically incorrect, but this is when a man needs to step in and knock this boy down to size.. a bit. Your father tough? Got a brother? Should be a member of the family.

At 14, it might be too late unless you act quickly.

Answer 6

The law has parents hands tied behind their backs and they say what is wrong with these kids nowadays. My dad would have taken a belt across my behind and you know, I would never, ever talk to him in that manner. Maybe you could call the police and ask them for advice in the proper way of handling this. They might suggest something that could help. Good luck! I have two boys 13 and 8 - we're not there yet, but in time I'm sure I'll come across this, wish me luck!

Answer 7

The boy seems to have no respect for his mother or is trying to really get her attention. She needs to take some drastic measures and reach him where he lives, i.e. ground him if he comes & goes as he pleases, take him out of sports for a time if he's a jock, etc. until he learns how to treat his parent with respect and consideration. But she needs to stand up to this behavior - if he can treat his mother this way, he'll be abusive and disrespectful in other relationships as well.

Answer 8

call adult protective services on him and ship his behind to juvi for a year or two there are also random group homes who aid in this behavior they live normal lives but have strict rules depending on behavior they can get privileges if you continue to let him do this then you will be showing fear as in when you try to stop him later he will know that all he has to do is be even meaner and you will back down it will only progress into more disturbing behavior unless you put a halt on it now i am how ever sorry if it bothered you about sending him to juvi but i have zero tolerance for such behavior as did my mother who was 4'10 and could whoop mine and my sibling hynies even when we were 2 to 3 ft taller than her zero tolerance is the key

Answer 9

It sounds like this son has lost all respect for their mom. He is angry with her and needs to learn some appropriate ways of handling his anger. I would suggest some counseling sessions with someone who specializes in anger management. Have him go first, then the mom can go also to work on whatever issues need to be resolved.

Answer 10

Well that depends on a couple of things but I say call the non emergency police line let them know the situation and don't worry we have laws to protect parents too all that goes around as i have shown mine comes around oh let him him know teeth do accidentally get knock out

Answer 11

Kick the shithead to the curb. Let him live in the street, you don't need that crap. My eldest did that to my wife and I knocked him out then dragged him to the curb, pinned a note to his shirt "don't come back" The other kids straightened right up, don't know or care what happened to the eldest.