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Question

Why doesn't my toddler come when I call for him/her? when ya'll find the answer........make sure you tell me, cuz, my boys have selctive hearing to, they hear what they wanna hear......... but, I love them...ha ha

My boys are 3 and 4 years old

And I wander if my 7 month old daughter will be the same? lol

Answer 1

Toddler, I assume means the boy is around age two? Your child has just entered a wonderful period in any human's life. This is the point when our brain separates itself from that of the lower form of animals, in development. Our brain begins developing the ability for long term storage of data.

That little brain, in that little body, is now absorbing 10 megabytes of information per second, with the storage capacity of more than 15 petabytes, which will take more than 10,000 years to fill. That little brain is just starting to absorb data, but it has only 10-12 years to absorb enough data to move into the next stage. At this point, it is looking for anything new and different, and I’m sorry, you are not new or different. It has stored much of the needed info about you, so it is looking for something else.

For something to become a permanent memory, it has to be done at least six times. That is why when he does something you don’t want him to do, and you discipline him, only for him to go right back and do it again, it is because he didn’t remember doing it the last time. Just repeat the exact same discipline, or your reaction, for his action, until the two combines to become a permanent memory. Then, he moves onto something new to irritate you with. Sorry, your job is going to be difficult until his brain settles down.

He does not conceptual ability to tell right from wrong. That ability does not even “BEGIN” developing until puberty. Christ didn’t even enter that stage until he was age 12, so don’t think you can rush it. In fact, you don’t want to rush it, because we are seeing the emergence of a new form of human, who matures slower, but has a much longer life span. Your son’s potential is 150 years, minimum, but back to what is happening right now.

Your son, in this “oh so wonderful stage” is looking at anything and everything. It is looking for new data, new experiences, and yes, you are just one of those pieces of data. It does not mean he doesn’t love you, a concept that he also will not begin developing until puberty. It does not mean he doesn’t need you, because of all things new, and what you and dad will be giving him is the most important data of all.

What you will need learn is how to break into the flow of data entering his brain, when he is simply paying attention to everything else except you. Try a whistle, and no, not whistle at him, blow a whistle. And no, he’s not a dog, but he has only entered the stage that separated him from that level, so take heart. Try a small water spray bottle, with pin point spray. Try anything that does break into that flow and gets his attention. Remember, anything new, anything different.

What he is to become is fully dependent of the data that is being fed to him now. Read to him, a lot. Play with him. Stay within his realm of reality, and he will hear you, see you, and want to learn from you. Of course, one of the things he is starting to learn is independence, but that is also only starting. That is one of the reasons why it is best to nurse children until age four, it helps continue that close bond until his brain has settled down and is absorbing data at a more balanced rate.

I envy you. It has been at least 27 years since I was where you are now. My own grandchildren live 600 miles away, so I’m missing them going through this stage. Keep a camera handy. Get video or stills of what he is doing now, because 30 years from now, you will look back and not believe some of the things he did, or will do, during this stage.

Have fun with it, but be patient, this will pass. Sometimes it will fell like passing a kidney stone, but it will pass.

Answer 2

My 14 month old twins do the same thing. Usually if they are playing well or if they are getting into something - they can't hear me at all... It drives me up the wall, but I've started sitting down in front of them, detaching them from whatever they are getting into and then offer a distraction - like playing tag or singing. They have started to hear me more regularly since responding to my calls is resulting in playtime and laughing.

Answer 3

Gee, that sounds like my son too! He just turned 2 on the 10th and a couple of months ago he started with the terrible two's. He is not really that bad though. He is just full of a lot of energy. I wish doctors could figure out a way to bottle some of that energy and sell it to the parents of toddlers...lol

Answer 4

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Answer 5

did you ever stop to think that these boys grow up to be men. they don't listen to you when their 2 or 102. men are just that way.

Answer 6

My son does the same thing!

Answer 7

wow....my lil man is the same way but you better believe i better anwser when he says mamma lol good luck lol

Answer 8

there is no answer to this problem. boys have it and then they become men who have it

Answer 9

break into song.

Answer 10

.They will come when they get hungry..lol