My brother in law insists on keeping pictures of his ex-girlfriend along with a few other mementos from their relationship. It really makes his fiance uncomfortable and she wishes he's get rid of them. He tells her they are just pictures and there is no sense in throwing them out. Other than having the pictures and stuff he shows no interest in going back to his ex-girlfriend, and he is very commited to his fiance. What would make him want to hold on to those pictures so badly? Is that normal?
2006-08-29 12:15:45 · 29 answers · asked by PepperPatty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea...its normal for some. My fiance has an exwife and he kept their pictures. I will admit tho....I made him store them at his mothers house and not ours.
2006-08-29 12:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lunchmeat 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have had this same problem myself. I insisted on my fiance throwing all of her old pictures of guys away because it made me very uncomfortable. When it came to be my turn to get rid of my old pictures I had a real hard time of it, but did it out of love and respect for her. I can see how by holding onto pictures it may easily bring up old memories and feelings from the past. Even if you are happy with the one you are with, looking at old pictures of people you were with in the past will always bring back some memories that otherwise might not have surfaced if you had not been sitting there looking at the pictures to begin with. I think when you are truly with someone you should clean out the closets and get rid of anything that has to do with other people you have had relationships with in the past. The past is the past and the future should be with the one you are with. Get rid of anything that doesn't have to do with your relationship now.
2006-08-29 12:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by TC/AC 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I feel it is totally okay to keep pictures of an ex around. I've been married for over 6 years and still have pictures of a lot of my ex-boyfriends. I see no reason to get rid of them because
(1) It's not like I want them back and
(2) They are a part of my life who helped lead me to who and where I am today. Why would I want to forget someone who offered me experiences that helped shape my life?
2006-08-29 12:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by bnaxchic 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately yes, it is normal, and it's a bad sign. Plus the fact he cares so little about his fiance's feelings suggests his relationship with her is already on the road to failure. If his fiance is "all that", what does he need pix of his ex for. If she's not, why is he marrying her? But I have one more question. How many times has this apparent jerk/loser been engaged? Maybe he's a serial fiance?
2006-08-29 12:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
While I think it is ok and perfectly normal to hold on to memento's of past relationships, I don't think it should be something that isn't in a taped up box, in storage. I mean is he having a look see at the old photos now and then? THAT'S not a good sign... It means he hasn't fully let go of the past yet. He can't move into a marriage while he is still stuck in his past!
2006-08-29 12:20:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends. Some people manage to stay friends after they break up - so why not keep the pictures??? Plus putting away the pictures will not delete the past which the fiancee has to live with anyway.
2006-08-29 12:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't feel that there is anything wrong with it, per se, as long as he is no longer involved with his ex in any way. I still have old pictures and letters from my high school sweetheart... but it's simply so that I can cherish a part of my history. As long as he isn't throwing these pictures or items in his fiances face then I don't see anything wrong with it.
2006-08-29 12:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, he's holding onto an old flame and that flame will never go out as long as he has those pics. If he really loved his fiance enough to marry her, he would get rid of them. What's the point of having them around anyways?
2006-08-29 12:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes its perfectly fine if he holds onto pictures. I think that his fiance is being unfair by telling him he has to let go of his snapshots of past happy memories. Maybe he could put them away instead of making her have to look at them.
2006-08-29 12:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by Slappin 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's completely normal. They are part of his past. I still have pics from back in middle school, and it's fun to go back and reminisce about it. It's not like it means anything.
2006-08-29 12:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by dixiepixie1976 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is very disrespectful.If it makes her uncomfortable,he should get rid of them.If he is serious about the relationship he's in now,he doesn't need to have pictures of another woman.
2006-08-29 12:34:17 · answer #11 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋