A friend of mine just lost their 1 year old to cancer......?

Question

I have a beautiful card for them but emotionally I think my brain is fried and I don't know what to say to them...I am not sure anything will help..Any suggestions on what to say in the card?

Answer 1

Words may not fix it but they do help. I've written a few suggestions below.

There are few words that I can say that can possibly minimize your pain but I want you to know that I am there.
May God and his angels be with you and give you the strength and courage you need to help you in this time of need. I am always with you in thought and spirit. I am truly sorry for the loss of your child. God Bless!

I do hope these few suggestions help. May God and his angels be with you all and I am sorry about the loss of the 1 year child.

Answer 2

I never know what to say, either. I usually just say things we all usually say like how sorry you are, ask if there's anything you can do to help, and that they are in your thoughts and prayers. Those things are nowhere near original, but they are sincere thoughts, and I think they help. I know when I've lost someone close, I always appreciate a hug from a good friend, too. Try to remember to keep in touch with them in the coming weeks. Don't let them think you've forgotten about them just because it might be awkward for a while.

Answer 3

The old man turned to me and asked
"How many friends have you?"
Why 10 or 20 friends have I,
And named off just a few...


He rose quite slow with effort
And sadly shook his head
"A lucky child you are
To have so many friends," he said


But think of what you're saying
There is so much you do not know
A friend is just not someone
To whom you say "Hello"


A friends a tender shoulder
On which to softly cry
A well to pour your troubles down
And raise your spirits high


A friend is a hand to pull you up
From darkness and despair...
When all your other "so called" friends
Have helped to put you there


A true friend is an ally
Who can't be moved or bought
A voice to keep your name alive
When others have forgot


But most of all a friend is a heart
A strong and sturdy wall
For from the hearts of friends
There comes the greatest love of all!!!


So think of what I've spoken
For every word is true
And answer once again my child
How many friends have you???


And then he stood and faced me
Awaiting my reply
Softly I answered
"If lucky...... one have "I"

"You!!!!"

Answer 4

Hello. My moms best friend lost her daughter to cancer too. My mom also had trouble with what too say. the thing is no matter how much u will say sorry or try to make things better nothing will change. Think about she lost her kid. thats prolly one of a parents worst fear. so just say a breif thing and thats all. that will be better than saying something long and emotional. Nothin can take away your friends pain so just say something short..... Hope my tip worked!!!

Answer 5

PUT THIS ON THE CARD, AND PLEASE READ THE WHOLE THING IT IS VERY SAD!
PLEASE READ THIS! IT IS WORTH YOUR TIME!
She jumped up as soon as she saw

the surgeon

come out of the operating room. She said: "How is

my little boy? Is he going to be all right? When can

I see him?"
The surgeon said, "I'm sorry. We did all we could,

but your boy didn't make it."

Sally said, "Why do little children get cancer?

Doesn't God care any more? Where were you,

God, when my son needed you?"
The surgeon asked, "Would you like some time

alone with your son? One of the nurses will be out

in a few minutes, before he's transported to the

university."

Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she

said good-bye to son. She ran her fingers lovingly

through his thick red curly hair.

"Would you like a lock of his hair?" the nurse

asked.
Sally nodded yes. The nurse cut a lock of the

boy's hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to

Sally. The mother said, "It was Jimmy's idea to

donate his body to the University for Study. He

said it might help somebody else. "I said no at

first, but Jimmy said, 'Mom, I won't be using it after

I die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend

one more day with his Mom." She went on, "My

Jimmy had a heart of gold. Always thinking of

someone else. Always wanting to help others if he

could."
Sally walked out of Children's mercy Hospital for

the last time, after spending most of the last six

months there. She put the bag with Jimmy's

belongings on the seat beside her in the car. The

drive home was difficult. It was even harder to

enter

the empty house. She carried Jimmy's belongings,

and the plastic bag with the lock of his hair to her

son's room. She started placing the model cars

and other personal things back in his room exactly

where he had always kept them. She laid down

across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried

herself to sleep.

It was around midnight when Sally awoke. Laying

beside her on the bed was a folded letter. The

letter said:
"Dear Mom, I know you're going to miss me; but

don't think that I will ever forget you, or stop

loving you, just 'cause I'm not around to say I LOVE

YOU. I will always love you, Mom, even more with

each day. Someday we will see each other again.

Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you

won't be so lonely, that's okay with me. He can

have my room and old stuff to play with. But, if you

decide to get a girl instead, she probably wouldn't

like the same things us boys do. You'll have to buy

her dolls and stuff girls like, you know. Don't be

sad thinking about me. This really is a neat place.

Grandma and Grandpa met me as soon as I got

here and showed me around some, but it will take

a long time to see everything. The angels are so

cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know

what? Jesus doesn't look like any of his pictures.

Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him. Jesus

himself took me to see GOD! And guess what,

Mom? I got to sit on God's knee and talk to Him,

like I was somebody important. That's when I told

Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you

good-bye and everything. But I already knew that

wasn't allowed. Well, you know what Mom? God

handed me some paper and His own personal pen

to write you this letter. I think Gabriel is the name

of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to

you. God said for me to give you the answer to
one of the questions you asked Him 'Where was He
when I needed him?' "God said He was in the
same place with me, as when His son Jesus was
on the cross. He was right there, as He always is
with all His children.
Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what
I've written except you. To everyone else this is
just a blank piece of paper. Isn't that cool? I have
to give God His pen back now. He needs it to write
some more names in the Book of Life. Tonight I
get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper. I'm,
sure the food will be great.
Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don't hurt anymore.
The cancer is all gone. I'm glad because I couldn't
stand that pain anymore and God couldn't stand to
see me hurt so much, either. That's when He sent
The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel
said I was a Special Delivery! How about that?Signed with Love from God, Jesus & Me.


"When you're down to nothing, God is up to
something."
"only the good die young"

Answer 6

Just be sincere. Of course you don't know what to say, it's just too hard. You could say all the normal stuff too, that your sorry for their loss, take them a casserole and offer to help in anyway possible.

Answer 7

Sure, just tell them when ever they need someone to be with them, just give you a call and you will come right over.

When people have really bad things happen to them, they feel alone and lost. They just want someone beside them to listen to them.

They will do all the talking. Just sit and listen.

Answer 8

I understand - I never know what to say either, so I say that. I tell them that don't know what to say. The most important thing is to let them know that you feel helpless and want to help out in any possible way. Friends of mine who lost their son, really disliked it when people never spoke of their son, like he never existed.

Answer 9

Sometimes when you don't know what to say it is best to say nothing. When my Dad died of cancer some people said the most stupid sh*t to me. I would just let them know you are thinking of them and you are there to listen. We had neighbors bring food and that also was helpful.

Answer 10

I am so sorry for such a terrible loss.

Just a short note to say your heart goes out to them and you are in their prayers. Let them know you are there if you can do anything to help them thru this time.