dishes after you have eaten at someone's home. My mom makes me wash all of their dishes after we have eaten. She says that it's a Chinese custom to wash someone else's dishes after you've eaten at their house. I guess it's a form of saying thank you. What do you think?
2006-08-29 11:58:32 · 11 answers · asked by asianpacificislandlaidbackgirl4u 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If it is a Chinese custom then I guess I can not argue!! Are you Chinese if you are then it is your heritage try to learn the positive aspects of it, rather than just dumping it without asking questions.
I am an Asian we have a lot of weird customs , but I have learned to take the best of both worlds!
But just out of curiosty what is wrong in helping with dishes at a friends/ aunts place it is the easiest thing to do, I always did it; it is a great way to help out your host!
2006-08-29 16:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by imhm2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always polite to help clean up after a meal at another person's home. After all they went through the trouble to cook and serve you food. Washing dishes is a small price to pay to be fed a good meal. It is also a shared experience that brings people closer.
As a guest washing dishes is the easiest thing to do because otherwise you have to keep asking, "Where's the plastic wrap?" or "Where does the water pitcher go?"
My parents never told me to do such things (Dad is dead and I'm all grown up now, so Mom has no say in what I do), usually I ask if I can help, or just start picking up dishes and cleaning up on my own, because it's the right thing to do.
It's not only a Chinese custom, it's the right thing to do.
Peace.
2006-08-29 19:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Polly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anything about it being a Chinese custom...I just know that I was brought up that it was just good manners and a way to show appreciation for the meal you were given. There is nothing wrong with helping out. It's no big deal....why make it out to be one. You did get a free meal...why not be grateful?
2006-08-29 19:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by tater 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i do not have parents who pushed me to do that.
however, I've always offered as a way of saying thanks. no one told me to do this, nor did i learn it from anyone. i saw a situation that needed addressing and from being helpful and thankful, it's just natural to me.
i think the custom should be spread elsewhere. lots of lazy people in this country!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-29 19:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a polite gesture - I sometimes offer, but most times people don't want their guests doing dishes.
2006-08-29 19:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Charles 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had to do it too as part of an old Irish custom.
2006-08-29 19:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Ricky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
next time my family has a big dinner can we invite you over so you can wash our dishes
2006-08-29 19:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Nicko912 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think thats so embarassing. its not like you chose to make all those meals and use all those plates and bowls.
i guess its okay to rinse your plate and your glass, if you must.
but to clean allll the dishes, no thanks.
thats just weird.
but to get revenge, invite those people over your place and make lots of food and use a lot of plates and have them clean up.
hahahhahahaa
2006-08-29 19:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by All4Christ 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
if it's their tradition and yours too. why not. i think we should do what our various customs expect of us.
2006-08-29 19:07:23 · answer #9 · answered by Rasman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LIAR!!
2006-08-29 19:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋