My cousin touches me, is he gay?

Question

My cousin touches me, is he gay?
Yeah ok so I've got this cousin, I'm 17 he's about 20 I think, and yeah every time I go to his house he grabs me, like he rubs my back and my stomach, its cuz sometimes I go to his house and we lift weights and work out, and well we're both built, but he, he's always touching me, and when we're naked he plays around, like he says weird ****, yeah and he rubs my stomach, and my biceps, and well he just keeps touching me, he says he's playing around but i've got doubts, also I remember when we were younger like 3 years ago, I stayed over at his house and well I was sleeping in his room, he wasn't there, but he go there that night, and well yeah we slept in the whole bed, and in the middle of the night he was like humping, me I guess, and yeah he was masturbating, cuz I heard him moan, that was like the last time I went over to his place till last year, I get along with him but he's just weird, tellll me what you people think bout this ok, thanks!

I know I'm not gay, I like girls, and when I say we get naked I mean, we take off our shirts to work out, and when he touches me I back away,

Answer 1

Very Gay and so are you to put up with it.

Answer 2

It sounds to me like he is gay, and I'd be sure to stay away from any opportunities for him to touch you in these ways. Nicely, firmly just say, "I'm not comfortable with that, I mean it." Definitely don't take any risk of sleeping near him. This can mess you up emotionally if it continues. I think I'd also calmly mention it to your dad, so that he can decide whether the cousin's parents need to keep an eye out so the guy doesn't molest little kids or anything. Not all gays do that, but since he started some stuff along those lines with you when you were about 14, let's be sure any younger neighbors or cousins are safe from him, okay?

Answer 3

Well rubbing your back and your stoamch is a just playing around sort of motion. The masturbating, well it's soemthnig that guys do regardless of straight, gay or bi so thats not somethnig oen can go by. You guess that he was humping yo? He either was or he wasn't that's not somethign you can go by. Moaning in bed i nthe middle of the night coulda been due to a dream as well. If he touches you inappropraiately then say soemthing and consider reporting him. In regards to beign gay, thats not somethnig one can answer from this information it's a matter of who he's attracted to, who he dates, what turns him on ect and only he can answer that for you.

Answer 4

He's Homosexual

If you've got a problem with your cousin. The best thing to do is to have a sit down with him and tell him how you feel about this whole situation.
You can't go on like this. Its no good for the health.
Well anyway it'll make you feel better if you just let it all out in the open, than letting it build up inside you.
Let him know the boundaries.

Answer 5

He possibly is gay and he's testing the waters with you to see if you are gay and interested.You never stated that you have told him "NO, and that you are not interested".That is probably why he keeps making advances at you.Also,if he does all this stuff that you say he does,why would you sleep in the same bed?
Sounds like you two are close so he should understand if your not interested in the gay thing but not saying a thing is leading him to believe you are interested but unsure of it.

Answer 6

Yea he is gay. He feels comfortable with you so he explores his fantasy's, even some in his mind that you may not know about. By doing the little here and there he is managing to feed his fantasy's without "coming out" or admitting what is really ment by it.
As to how to handle the situation I would just tell him that your not comfortable with it. If he persist then stop being around him. But talk to him first. Tell him you dont care if that is how he chooses you still want to hang out but you dont want to be apart of that aspect of his life.

Answer 7

If you don't speak up for yourself the behavior will continue. Let him know under no uncertain circumstances that you're not interest in his advances: "Hey, cus I just want you to know when you touch me like that, it makes me very uncomfortable, ok? So if you do it again, I'm gonna make contact with your face with my fist! I don't care what you do with other men, just keep your hands to yourself." It's ok for you to say this; the guy is overstepping his boundaries. If he doesn't stop, punch his cutie face and stay home to lift weights. If you don't say anything, he's going to think you like it, Numb-nutts! Godloveya! (no, I'm not anti-gay)

Answer 8

Yes, he has homosexual tendencies. Much more serious are the incestual undertones. Tell him you don't like guys, and offer to listen if he neeeds to tell you about any relative who got too personal with him while he was growing up.
The girl I fell in love with didn't tell me or her boyfriends for years that her dad raped her as a child, but in that time we all saw her hate for him and pathological distrust of their fidelity, deserved or not. She couldn't combine friendship and sex till she found someone to truly love as I had a decade earlier. I was both too early and too late.
A few years ago, I found out my dad and sister had had a short incestual affair when she switched colleges to one near him while he was chasing a job near New Orleans. My mother didn't realize till she went to help my sister deal with her terminal M.S. She stayed, got a separation and eventual divorce, but would't press charges and risk hurt to her daughter in the process.

Answer 9

I would assume is homosexual if he touches other men and he's a bit disturbing if he touches you. You shouldn't sleep in the same bed and you shouldn't take off your shirt in front of him if he gets horny. He is perverted. Try and set him up with a girl and see if he accepts. Say things like: "She is sexy." And compare that reaction to the one he has when you tell him you set him up with a guy. If not, just ask him if he's gay and tell him to stop feeling you up!

Answer 10

This is very easy...tell him you do not like to be touched by him. Say it nicely and it will stop..what is the problem here. Tell him you are straight, and if he is gay, it is no big deal, but you are not interested in it...leave it at that. He will stop. Good luck

Answer 11

Um, I'm not sure. I don't know how guys think. I know that some women get turned on to see another naked women. But that doesn't make them a lesbian. But I just don't see guys feel that way about other guys.