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i feel like micheal douglas in that movie when he snaps
i am work right now and i am just on the verge of loosing it
crazy i mean
my wife hates me thinks i am screwing my neighbors even though i have only talked to her once
my job is always threatened i work at an out sourced call center
i am being asked if i would like to work maditory over time but i wish to refuse simply i work 4 by tens and don't want to work 4 by 12s if i don't sign the sheet i am fired by the end of my night
then my wife will flip out again and hate me even more
i want to tell my customers to use the on screen instruction and some freakin common scence and just smash the computer in front of me
i have feltm this way for a month tryed tro tell my wife but scince we are arguing she just listens then stands up walks a way and says good luck ]
any ways thanx for letting me rant

Answer 1

Good grief darlin...okay, let's see...
First...stop drinking coffee, soda and energy drinks at work! Drink water, take some Advil, and start taking some B-Complex or Stress-Tabs vitamins. If the extra hours are mandatory, then you have no choice. At least you'll get overtime pay, right? Use the other days you have available to find a better job, or maybe transfer to a different department in your present job.The stupid customers, you can't do much about. As for the neighbor, invite her over (when your wife is there) to introduce them. Have a cook-out, or drinks or something. Find some common ground between her and your wife, so that YOU can start a conversation between them. It'll all be okay.....

Answer 2

Whoa, you are handling a lot. If you work 10 hours days, I would take a day every week and spend some time looking for a new job.

You also need to do something for you, and it sounds like your wife is having some problems or is a part of your problem. How about taking a few days and going away together, get away from the every day stresses of life and rekindle your love. May then she can be more supportive of you.

You could probably use some counseling, does your employer have an EAP that you can use? This would not put a strain on the budget, but could help entirely.

I think that if you make some decisions and make some direction to change and improve your life, you will start to feel better.

Answer 3

Things can't help but get better, doesnt sound like it can get worse.
you need a hug and a kiss and maybe a couple of days off.
Any way you can alternate your days off by having them end on one pay period and then for the next week have them begin your week so that they all fall together and you wont lose pay? Then maybe you can focus on your partner and try to resolve or work out the "bumps".get some sleep and chill time to re-group.
Only you really have your answers.Drama, chaos,& stress are
killers, I wish there was a majic word to "fix" it , but there is not.
The positive side to the conflicts is that from these you will gain the most in many ways, and benefit more thenyou had during those lazy hazy crazy days of summer. I'll try to explain my perspective although "explaining what I think is not one of my better qualities, I will try any way . since it seems relevent and important.
I am a bit older now and have had many bumps and brusises along the way. For me, in retrospect. it is the hardest times that I endured that I have grown and learned the most from, about what I am made of , capable of and its the resistence that has made me tougher and smarter and more aware of my choices and stuff.
Yes sometimes life really sucks and doesnt harmonize, sometimes we have to choose a tougher road to reach a destination we want to go to, there are detours and varibles all the time, thus changing what we thought was a sure thing. The easy way isn't always the easy way. when the problems of yours begin to work themselves out hopefully with your guidence, new ones will surely take there place but won't be so life altering once you trust that you can make choices and it's ok to make mistakes too.
think about it. for every basket Michael Jordon made , think how many he had missed. Jobs are important, perhaps you want to hang in there and approach it a bit different, but your relationship is a priority, before too much damage is done , find out what's going on at home, risk it , tell her you love her, tell her you are sorry the two of you are struggling and ask her .What does she think you could do to get past the conflict then . Listen. maybe even go off by yourself and cry get it out of your system, you may feel better.anyway an easy life doesnt prepare you for the curve balls.when one door closes another will open, it always does.
don't be afraid, just embrace it.

now how's that for a ton of cliche'. ?
good luck I wish you well, and I wish you PEACE

Answer 4

Wow, you are suffering from some serious burnout. Why don't you start looking for a job somewhere else? Sometimes an unsatisfactory work life will carry over to an unsatisfactory home life. I think a new job will give you a new perspective. If you have to take a paycut, then take the paycut and escort your wife to the nearest employment office. Put her to work to take up the slack in your paycheck. Change your situation before you lose your mind.

Answer 5

I rarely advise using things of the sort, but pal, you need to smoke a bowl or take a valium. Maybe you need a change. Maybe you need a new career and a new wife. Maybe you need to have a "Falling Down" kind of day. Happens to the best of us.

Life really shouldn't be that hard. It is okay to make huge life changes with disregard to how it will affect the nag at home, the children, the boss.

Change is good.

(Remember to breathe. You aren't the only one this has happened to, and 99% of those other people have survived.)

Answer 6

Sounds like you are extremely stressed out. Try taking a multiple vitamin B, 6, 12 and a relaxer like Kava Kava or St, Johns Wort. They take a little while to work like 2 weeks but then you'll feel like king of the world.

Answer 7

Be cool. Consider it as one of those rare times when the world seems to be against you. You will still prevail, other opportunities will open. Your wife is deaf now, but tell her that you wish that since she has closed her ears down, might she open her eyes wider so she'll see all these struggles you're going through alone.

Answer 8

Sounds like u need couples counseling and domesticated job. Try lookin for a new one and maybe call centers aren't 4 you. Try monster, hotjobs or snagajob even

Answer 9

Your wife is insecure and abusive.
There are thousands of phone jobs out there, find another one(it'll probably even pay better), you don't have to put up with that crap.

Answer 10

rant anytime ya want!
well I do hope things get better for ya!
Sighn the stuff and try to find a new job!
well hope ur day or night gets better!!!!