my sister wont stay out of my life!! please help?

Question

well my sis is 29 im 15 we hate each other she got dumped 3 yeaers ago and is always mad
*she read my diary an told my mom stuff that i wrote!
*she calls me a ***** in the store! and im not even one
* she has a problem with me talking 2 guys and saying theyre cute !
*im probably never gonna be able 2 date cause of her she doesnt let me live my life we fight a lot! SHES MEAN! SERIOUSLY she still hasnt gotten over her ex bf what do i do? please help she wont stop fighting with me

Answer 1

Good grief! At 29 she sure is immature and has some serious life issues that she should have worked out years ago. Now, little sis..you have a chance to be a kid and her time has passed. I do see jealously motivating her to snoop and be so mean.

Can you at all go to your Mom and tell her what is happening? Does your Mom even know? Does your Mom know that your adult sister is actually harrassing you and invading your personal space which are all illegal to do? Can you ask your Mother to set visiting rules down nice and neat for your sister so that her inference is not tollerated?

It will do no good to speak your sister of this..it just gives her more ammunition against you. You need to protect yourself and not go out with her. I feel so bad for you because your sister has decided to be another Mother to you and she is doing a half butt poor job of it.

Answer 2

I know this may sound crazy, but try to look at yourself and this situation in her perspective. Maybe if you see things in a new light, you'll understand where she's coming from.

It takes two to fight, so just don't fight back and maybe she'll get bored. Have you tried talking to her? Not yelling at her in the middle of a fight, but sitting down when you're both calm and having a serious chat.

Try to love and respect her, cuz she is your older sis, and at least then, you won't be to blame for anything and maybe you'll win her over with time. Have you ever considered that maybe she doesn't want you to date cuz she doesn't want you to go through what she did? Just a thought.

This sounds like something that won't be solved fast, so be patient. Hang in there girl! Best of luck in your situation

Answer 3

That's quite a bit of an age difference for you to still be fighting like that. And she's tattling on you? Sounds like your sister has some growing up to do. Maybe her boyfriend really hurt her and it will take some time for her to get over it. I have a friend who had a bad marriage and hates "all men", I just ignore her most of the time...I know they are not all bad and personally have not had any really bad experiences. Good Luck. Hopefully your sister will find something else to occupy her time.

Answer 4

Have your parents get a arbitrator. Someone who listens to YOUR thoughts, issues, problems, etc. Then they listen to your sister's thoughts, issues, problems, etc. And then they go back to both of you, different visits, and explain the OTHER what is going on with your sister, and with you, and discuss what both of you can do to be civil and happy together again.

Your sister is acting like a protective MOM. She is not your mother, she is your sister. She needs to back off.

PS I suggest that she joins a gym. There is a LOT of great guys in a gym and in time she will find someone new in her life.

Life is really too short to be alone and especially angry and alone.

Answer 5

Have you talked to your Mom and Dad about her, tell her to give you some space. Tell your parents you do not appreciate her cussing at you, I don't think they will like that also. Tell her your diary, is your personal thoughts, and it is an invasion of your privacy. Tell her you appreciate her trying to help you not to make the mistakes she made, but if you need her advice, you will ask her.

Answer 6

It sounds like she is jealous, you should try to talk to her and see what her problem is. I know this may sound corny, but she does love you..me and my sister used to fight all the time, and now we are best friends. Time and maturity changes a lot of things.

Answer 7

I know you probably don't want to hear this. but maybe she's looking out for you. She shouldn't read your diary though. You may want to have a talk with her and explain how you feel.

Answer 8

Wow that's actually decrease to rubble of her to deleted you from her myspace. you do not ought to be in her existence and she or he would not ought to be on your existence she's acts like somewhat baby . you may continuously pass see your nephew and neice. you do not ought to pass see your sister. Its not suitable how your sister won't permit you notice the infants. She's is conscious she is going to omit you and comprehend it later.

Answer 9

ok, well, just try to hook her up w/ some other dude. seriously, she does need to get a life. anyway, just keep it cool. if she somehow finds another guy (with your help) she will be able to spend more time with him and less time wit you. take your diary somewhere SAFE and go to your friends house's OFTEN to stay away from her. if i were you, i'd take my diary with me. : )

Answer 10

You might trying to show sis that she can't bother you with her banter. Maybe try asking her for advice about boys and tell her you respect her opinion--that would disarm her and she wouldn't know what to say.