On of my daughter's friends I can't stand to look at her. She lies, connives and is a really bad apple. She blackmails my daughter. I don't want to hate this child, but the site of this little monster pricks every nerve in my body. They are 9 years old. Is this terrible of me to feel this way. I never disliked a kid like this one. I have heard her backstabbing and telling the lies.
2006-08-29 11:30:11 · 24 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
wow, hey if you feel that way than you should say something to your daughter about it, dont say anything that will upset your daughter or your daughter will turn on you, maybe tell your daughter you heard something bad about her friend and you wanna set her up but need your daughter help, and maybe once your daughter see's that her friend isn't such a good friend, then you wouldn't have to worry about your daughter hanging out with a conniving lying backstabbing little b*tches anymore!
2006-08-29 11:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the problems with your daughters friends is the feeling of not being accepted, so, she is trying to get through life the best way she knows how. It is okay to feel that way, just don't let her know. I am not sure where they socialize, but if you can't make up excuses when she wants to play, then I would suggest you sit your daughter down and have a long talk with her about her friends behavior. Not only about how you don't want her to act like that, but you don't want the other little girl to take advantage of her. Your daughter has probably noticed something about her anyway. But try to keep in mind (no matter how hard it is to do) that the other little girl is just a child also.
When I say talk to your daughter about the little girl, I didn't mean for you to cuss her out to your daughter. It is very important that your daughter not hear you bad mouthing her. Tell her that the other little girl has issues, that you are not sure why, that some of the things the little girl does makes you mad, but God wants us to love everyone, even people that we don't agree with. So, be specific about what the other child is doing that you don't like (Examples) and have your daughter be on guard for this behavior. I hope everything works out for the best. Just pray about it.
2006-08-29 12:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a teacher and I feel that there is nothing wrong with "disliking" a child. If a teacher tells you that they love and adore every single one of their students then they are flat out lying! It is just a part of life that not everyone is going to like everyone and some people are like oil and water. Personality conflicts exist adult to adult and they exist between child and child and they exist between adult and child. I would, however, limit the amount of time your child is allowed to spend with this child or really ask your daughter some serious questions like "Why do you like Sally so much? What do you not like about her?" Maybe questions like this will have your daughter come to the same conclusion you have already arrived upon.
2006-08-29 14:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by bnaxchic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its OK to dislike a child but resolving it would help a lot. How long has this been going on? If its been a while address the problem with the child and parents. BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY! Talk to your daughter about this friend. It is very important that she knows the difference between a friend and a fiend.
2006-08-29 11:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Nme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but a lot of bad kids come from bad parents. A child does not learn this behavior on their own. A lack of parental supervision and discipline is mostly to blame. Before you tell your daughter that she cannot hang out with her friend have a talk with her parent/s to find out if something can be done to change the way she acts.
2006-08-29 11:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nope, you just have a sense for being against the arrogant, conniving, back stabbing, lying BRATS.
Its ok to feel this way. If you liked it, wouldn't that tell you that all the things this child is doing, is RIGHT?
thought so!
Just tell the parents of this child. Don't hang around this child to upset you.
2006-08-29 11:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly normal for you to reserve these feelings towards the child. People might argue its bad parenting (and it maybe) but you cannot always blame the parents of this child. This child don't need your disdain, but more of your pity. She really need to seek help, but since you are not the mother of the child then you have no place in it. My best advice is to encourage your daughter to stay away from this "bad apple."
2006-08-29 11:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by Maria Gallercia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, it's our jobs to protect our children. You wouldn't stand for this type of behavior in an adult, why would we in a child? Sounds like the perfect example of a child to keep your daughter away from!
2006-08-29 11:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd keep her away from your daughter and no it's not wrong to dislike her, but a child like that sounds like bad parenting of lack there of.
2006-08-29 11:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know the feeling but I had to realize that it really isnt the child but probably that she has never been taught better so if you want to cont letting her hang out with your child you could correct her when she is there and tell her that she is welcomed there only if she follows your rules and maybe if she starts acting better then you will learn to love her too
2006-08-29 11:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋