How to feel less overwhelmed?

Question

hey. i'm only doing this for some advice from the elderly.i'll try to keep it brief.
let's see.. i'm 16 yrs old and am VERY worried. i'm feeling adrift all the time and am barely acting like myself these days. everything(from music to girls, from mags to sports) seems pointless(+not-exciting-at-all) from where i'm looking. i don't even feel like waking up some days. i used to know how deal with things but now, i have no idea how i got to this point. i'm scared of spending the rest of my life in this mood.

i don't know how anyone can help but just give it a shot if you have anything in mind.

Answer 1

Not sure if I can help because I think your feelings go deeper than what you're able to convey here.
Have you talked to your parents without them ruling this as a teenage phase?
Have you been in this numb mood for long? month? week? all summer?
You sound as though you once had interests some cool friends music, cars, sports.
When did you feel differently about these things?
Did something bad happen recently? major changes?
Did you move?
Or has it been a subtle change in your feelings that only you knew was taking place.
Sometimes teenagers take on too much. Putting too much pressure on themselves & they don't realize how stressed they've become until they go to do something that once excited them but no longer does. Could be normal feelings but I think you should have a serious talk with whatever parent you feel closest to if not both and hopefuly they can guide you to a safe answer maybe see your Dr. just to ease your mind & reassure you that your perfectly fine.
Good Luck!!! By the way you are very wise to have even noticed your change in feelings, and even more mature to have reached out for help!!!!!

Answer 2

It is difficult for anyone to give you a good answer without asking you a few questions; however I will try.

The things you describe are symptoms of depression. There is nothing wrong with having this. It feels miserable but can be treated. Why don't you look up and see if there are a few tests online for depression? Usually they say if you have 3 or more of these symptoms and have had them for longer than 2 weeks you may be suffering from depression.

Doctors do not always use medicine for this - especially with teenagers, but there is help out there. Don't let this go too far.

I am speaking from experience. I let my depressin go so far it almost ruined my life. I am getting better now. I felt like you did for a time when I was 16. Maybe if I had received help then, it would not have gotten so bad in later years.

Good luck to you. I hope you find someone you can talk too. Don't listen to too much BS on here. You seem intelligent, you can look a lot of things up yourself.

Answer 3

("Advice from the elderly"? I'm 34 -- does that qualify, in a teen's view? *G*)

How long has this been going on? Don't assume that a brief bout of depression is reason to go on drugs that may not help anyway. Our society has this annoying tendancy to think everything has to be medicated...

As I recall, 16 is an age when you're likely to feel worried about what you're going to do with your life once you are an adult and on your own (which can be seriously overwhelming, but everyone worries about that at some time), and maybe part of the problem is that you're honestly not interested in the same things that you were a year or two ago. In which case, look for new things that interest you now.

If you're concerned, talk to someone about getting yourself evaluated for depression, and find someone you can talk to about how you feel.

Answer 4

What I do when I feel overwhelmed is I find something enjoyable to do and just forget about life for a while. Whether it is artwork, walking through a park, hanging with friends, studying something new, reading, writing. I have many interests. Don't worry, you are just starting out in life and you have many years ahead of you, you should enjoy your life, maybe go for a bike ride, run. Nothing is pointless, you will find a true meaning in your life. In case you are wondering I am in my 40's, been there and done that. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

Do you have pets? Do you have a dog? Talk to your parents and see about getting a dog.

I found out later, after our family dog died (Dad buried him in the grove and we all cried for days) that our dog knew more family secrets than you could shake a stick at and yell fetch. He was our friend and confidant. Someone (?) to tell our miserys to and surprisingly he could look just as sad as we felt.

If you do get a dog, don't get a full breed they are too high strung and can be hard to handle. Get a mutt, they will love you forever. Take obedience classes to help you learn about dogs and to train the dog and to bond with the dog.

In the long run they are cheaper than a psychiatrist and drugs.

Answer 6

i would just sit back for a week or two to see if you feel better about the things you have mention,make a list of what you can and can not do about the situation and see if you bounce back from feeling blue, there is a big difference between feeling blue, and being depressed clinically,which alot of ppl do not realize.if you do not feel better i would talk with an adult, a counselor at your school, and possible a doctor to see if your clinically depressed,because you just can not snap out of it if you would be .i'm 45 im not elderly yet lol.

Answer 7

What your are going through is a "teenage crisis. It's normal and natural for a boy of your age. It a time for discovery of who you are and your place in the universe. It's a time of many changes.
You are going to go through many of these changes as you get older. Things that one day will seem exciting might later seem not to be anymore. But you will find what really excites you and will stay with you through out your life.
There are times in every ones life in which they hate to face the morning and reality, but we do and you must. Life is in a constant state of flux and we must accept it.
Men go through many crisis in their life.
Teenage, seeking a life partner, marriage, work, middle age etc. All will have to be met and as you get older you will find that you will be able to handle all of them. So don't worry, go with the flow.

Answer 8

it is better to give than to recieve. help someone else. mow someone's lawn for free, volunteer at a rec center or nursing home. city or village? pick some neglected area and clean it up. choose something that doesn't primarily benefit you.(but in the end it will. you'll feel better!)

Answer 9

Dont fall off the face of the earth yet dont substitute into linked like bodily as in consistently being together with her and chatting together with her (till she likes that') basically provide her some area and confer together with her a minimum of as quickly as a week yet dont provide her the chilly shoulder :)

Answer 10

have you talked to your parents about this? if you feel uncomforable try your school counselor about the feelings you are having but the important thing is to talk to someone then you be able to identify whats going on. like i said if you have a good relationship with one or both of your parents they would be able to help and they would support you. good luck