I am a christian but since I found out my husband has been cheating on me I can't sleep in the same bed with him.Is this against God's law?He claims to be christian as well
2006-08-29 10:58:58 · 41 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No, there is nothing wrong with you. It's a normal reaction when you find out someone has betrayed you.
Him cheating is against God's law. Thou shalt not commit adultry! This is the only reason in the bible that God gave for a divorce.
while I am not suggesting a divorce, I would encourage you to seek godly counsel with a pastor or counselor.
good luck. I will pray for you!
2006-08-29 11:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by just forgiven 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-29 11:01:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not against God's law. Your husband has betrayed his marriage vows and it acceptable to sleep in separate beds in the meantime otherwise you condone his behaviour.
He should show signs of remorse and repentence before reconciliation can take place. Trust has gone, but it can be rebuilt over time. How long this takes is between you both.
If he does not repent then your marriage is over. However, if he does repent then the matter should be openly discussed between you both, and then the subject should be closed. If you argue later the subject should not be raised again otherwise you will prevent any healing.
You must let your husband know that you will not sleep together until he has repented and you feel able to share a bed (not sex) again with him.
Time and effort will be the key to moving on, but it will not be easy. Your faith will help, but you need to examine why he cheated on you, and for both of you to deal with it.
2006-08-29 11:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by Mac 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's against God's law for married people to be cheating on their spouse. You need to get into counseling and start repairing your marriage. If you can't sleep with your husband in the same bed, then sleep on the couch - there is nothing wrong with that. He broke your vows and broke one of God's commandments.
2006-08-29 11:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has cheated and you feel betrayed. Christians are not perfect people. We are just forgiven so do not try to be perfect. Has your husband admitted to his affair? If he has, I would try to get some counseling. The marriage can be saved but it will take work. I have been there. Not easy but it can be done. Do not worry about sleeping in different beds. It is not a sin. Seek counseling
2006-08-29 11:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by Ness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it to Christians to break all of God's laws. Perhaps if you spent less time being a Christian and more time being human, you would be happier. I think that if I were in your "shoes," I would get the *** turned on really good, then jump out of bed and go sleep in the guest room with a headache, or to say prayers for his salvation, or something. And, whatever you do, light some candles...hopefully, he will be allergic to the scent. OR, invite the trollop over for a 3 way...you may believe in the holy ghost, but I suspect he will be uttering "holy sh*t." Good luck in whatever you do, you will need it.
2006-08-29 11:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What your husband did is called adultery and it is a sin. I don't see anything wrong in not sleeping in the same bed. He betrayed you. As a Christian you need to pray. If you love him it is possible to get through this but he will have to earn your trust again. Forgiveness is easier, trust takes time. Counseling would help too. Good luck.
2006-08-29 11:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, the only reason in the New Testament for divorce is adultery. How can your husband claim to be a Christian and commit adultery? He is probably just trying to control you. Whatever you do, do it carefully and prayerfully, not spur of the moment. Keep in mind that it's an odd thing with men, if they do it once, they'll generally do it twice. They do not learn the lesson, so if you keep him, be prepared.
2006-08-29 11:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by Grandma Susie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. Kick his **** and throw him out. You will sleep lime an infant on downers. Oh, and religion is only a way of mass social control. Get over the whole God thing, realise life is the only chance we get and there is no 'ultimate' reward for living in misery under the guise or being 'holy' or good. The only rewards we get are the ones we create for ourselves in life. Not the afterlife.....
2006-08-29 11:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by arwen4838 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, How the heck can you get in the same bed with him when he's cheated on you? Doesn't God's law say "thou shall not commit adultery?{ cheating! hello!}I think you're God and his God our different Gods! Dump him, cause once a cheat always a cheat, and by a new bed!Give him the "old" one so he can think about what he's missing!
2006-08-29 11:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋