I like this guy at my work and I know he likes me too because other people at work tell me so. Well we are both really shy so I decided to leave a note on his car telling him that I liked him and that we should hang out. Well the next day he wouldn't even talk to me or look at me like he usually does. Throughout the week he opened up to me and talks to me a little more but he still hasn't brought up the note. I don't understand if he is just nervous to talk about it or if he doesn't want to go out with me. Did I do something wrong and scare him off? Why won't he talk to me about it?
2006-08-29 10:56:48 · 30 answers · asked by Dewdlebug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you know that he actually got the note?
The simplest way to get this guy talking is to ask just that..."Did you get the note I left on your car the other day? You were game enough to leave it in the first place, so you really must like him, so dont be shy again....be upfront. Whatever the outcome, you need to get him talking, and that would be a perfect way for a conversation to begin. If he says "yes", but nothing more because he is too shy, you could say something like "Well, what do you think?"
Just take it from there and see how it unfolds. Maybe he is even more shy than anyone thinks. My 19 year old son is very shy...he is a handsome man and girls are always trying to meet him. He doesnt know how to talk to girls, so it appears he couldnt care less....but deep down inside, its his insecurities about himself that give that impression, not how he really feels. It takes a special woman to bring out the real personality of a real shy guy, and only someone who is willing to try and perservere will get what they want. Give it a try...I dont think the sky will open up and a bolt of lightning will come down and strike you dead if you take a deep breath and just start a conversation with him about the note. Its a good way to start.
2006-08-29 11:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's shy like you he's probbaly just overwhelmed that he got something like this!! If you've worked with him for quite some time he's got to know you as a friend and now that you;ve offered yourself to him as more he may be a bit scared or may vbe deciding whether ur friendship is worth risking, cos if anything did ever happen you'd stil have 2 work with each other and that could be quite hard. The best thing to do is confront ur shyness and just speak to him about it. The worst he's gonna say is he's not ready. You definitely didnt do something wrong! If no-one ever took the plunge in asking someone out or telling them they liked them, no-one would ever get together! Oopps looks like Ive rambled, sorry! Hope that helps! Gd luck!
2006-08-29 11:04:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jason W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the poor thing alone for about another week and talk to him but don't bring up the note ok? and i bet leaving some time to think about would calm him down. Then when everything is fine I bet he'll ask you out. But it might be a little hard on him
2006-08-29 11:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by - Eiren - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shyness, as you know, is a powerful force. You've made the first move and broken the ice--that was very brave. Unfortunately, the guy you like apparently still hasn't gathered enough courage to respond.
Write him another note that says, "Do you like me?" Or, if you feel up to it, approach him in person and ask if he got your first note and what he thought about it. If he responds positively, ask him out. If not, maybe he's not ready for a relationship.
2006-08-29 11:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's prolly still shy, Break him out of that nutshell and flirt with him. Also he may not be absolutely sure if the note was from you or not he might think it was a sick joke or something. But honestly if u really want this guy you should bring up the note and go from there
2006-08-29 11:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by cherrylick_124 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have scared him of, so just hang back a little more and after a few days goes by ask him if he would like to go see a movie one that is in the afternoon not at night. An afternoon movie is not a date it is just hanging out
2006-08-29 11:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by mrsmay28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the note that you left him was pretty sudden. IF both of you guys like each other, I don't understand why his behavior is weird. He's probably scared to bring it up because yeah, he's shy like you said. Be patient, the more comfortable he feels around you the more open he'll be to talk to you. Then hopefully, he'll ask you out on that date you wanted :)
GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-29 11:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by lovergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very possible that he thinks someone else may have written the note as a joke and he is shy, so he does not want to ask you. You need to ask him when you are alone with him if he got your note. Then maybe you could ask him to go somewhere with you sometime and see what he says.
2006-08-29 11:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by kb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you said that he is shy. Secondly may be he didn't even get the note may be it felt of his car or he never read it. BUT since he is shy he will be afraid to make a move or something ... just give it time. and you did not do ANYTHING wrong ...
2006-08-29 11:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by ShyGuy1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he got the note? Could it have fallen off the car? If he seems interested, keep the conversation going. It could lead to an after work dinner from there.
2006-08-29 11:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by Teacher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋