Only to have things end with a break-up?
How long did it take you to get over your last break-up?
2006-08-29 10:54:59 · 21 answers · asked by jam961 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I gave my ex everything I could have. I loved him very very much, and probably;y gave him more than I should have. I spent all the money I had, took out loans, almost lost my house, did lose my car, helped him buy a car, upset my family, quit talking to my friends, used all of my vacation time helping him find jobs that he kept losing, he totaled my parents car, I trusted him completely, lost a child with him, only to have him decide this wasn't what he wanted anymore.. So he left with a girl we had known for 4 weeks, after being with me for almost 4 years. It hurt more than anything I have ever been through, but I am very glad it happened. While I don't doubt that he loved me at one point, we were no good for each other. I t has only been like five or six weeks since the split. I try to hang out with some of the friends I still have, and try to make new ones. I do anything I can to not think about him. I have to admit it just gets a little easier every day. While I think i will always have feelings for him.. I think I that we can both experience a better love with someone besides each other. If I have learned one thing from my experience, it is that love isn't always enough by itself.. relationships need lots and lots of work from both partners to ever work. You can't ever quit trying. Life does go on...
2006-08-29 11:08:29 · answer #1 · answered by OnE GiRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is part of the relationship cycle. Ever heard of practise makes better ?
Think of breaking up as part of practise to make you better in relationship.
One person might brake up with you cause you sucks in kissing. It hurts!But hey,that makes you try even harder to find out how to kiss right.
Another person might say that you're too childish. It hurts! but it sure makes you wants to grow to be more mature more than ever.
Everything happens for a reason. Whenever you feel hurt,try to think outside the box and realize that it simply means you need to be better at certain things or maybe that person just not for you
PS. to remind you, NEVER put your entire heart into relationship unless you're married to them.Doesnt mean you can cheat,it means don't sail into a deep water unless you know what to expect. A clear communication is the key...
2006-08-29 18:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I put my heart and soul into a relationship for 5 years ..took me about a year to get over and move on but lol I survived
2006-08-29 17:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth, that's a hard thing to do because not everything goes as you plan,so get prepared and try the best as you can. There are good times and bad times, love is full of surprises. So be youself and maybe you can find true love. Just don't know when will it come. Good luck!!!!!
2006-08-29 17:59:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...My daughter's father and I were together for 4 and 1/2 years and we broke up. It hurt so bad, b/c I found he was cheating on me also. I started doing alot l of drugs, lots of cocaine and ended up getting pregnant after we broke up. But to answer your question it took about a year and a half to get over him.
2006-08-29 18:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by vernise2679 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have and realized a big lesson. Love is not about giving your heart to anyone but sharing it. Love should not be the goal of any relationship!.. The object of love is finding someone to share it with. You see when you "Give" something to someone you give them TOTAL control over that thing so what they do with it one cannot control but when you SHARE something with someone it is understood that they must one respect it and two return it in the SAME manner they received it. When you find someone you can SHARE your love with that is called JOY!
Healing will begin as soon as you want it to be.
Forgive yourself, forgive them and then LOVE yourself.
Good Luck
Phantom
2006-08-29 18:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by phantom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wasn't meant to be. Can't say as I have ever experienced this but on the opposite side you need to read more into clues. don't give so much of yourself, maybe you won't be sooo hurt in the end. You will get over it, sooner if you move on and get out and live your life.
2006-08-29 18:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by eva c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart and my soul and all that i had..Long distance relationship isn't a smart choice!! to be honest i still don't think i fully gotten over him and its been a good 2.5 years!
2006-08-29 17:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by One Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have totally put my heart into a relationship and naturally in the end we broke up...and that was like someone threw that heart right into your face.....and ur sitting down picking up the pieces of that heart....well i just broke so i dunno how many YEARS it is gonna take to get over it.....
2006-08-29 18:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by Rock D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My life story.
But I thought the last one was "the One". I am still getting over it.
2006-08-30 17:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by Selkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋