How would you react if your teenage son called you a horrible and unfit mother since you wouldn't let him drop out of school? What would you say if he told you he doesn't want a relationship with you anymore?
2006-08-29 10:42:50 · 15 answers · asked by nvsweets2006 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'd tell him I was HARDLY an unfit mother for wanting him to be the best person he can be and wanting mroe for his life than fast food resteraunts and toilet scrubbing. As for the relationship, until that boy is 18 his tush is MINE! He doesn't have that choice. He may not like my decisions NOW, but he will thank me later.
Young people often make bad decisions. He isn't thinking ahead. Yeah, it sounds good NOW... no school! Yay! riiight. Of course, he's also probably expecting you to keep paying his bills too. How good will it sound in 6 months when he's working 2 or even 3 minimum wage jobs just to keep the rent paid on a dive apartment? Without a highschool education you can kiss the chance of ANY decent job goodbye. The VAST majority of people these days have a degree. If an employer has a choice between a BA, a high school graduate and a drop out, they are never EVER going to choose the drop out. Even if they have those three people for 5 jobs they still might not hire him as he's already shown he can't stick with something and finish it. He also has little education and is going to be considered "stupid" no matter how smart he may THINK he is.
He will finish school. That's it. OH, and for his attitude? He can kiss a lot of the things he considers his "rights" goodbye. If he wants a car, he can buy one. Same for his registration and insurance. If he doesn't want a relationship with me that includes financial honey. No spending money. No new clothes. No car. No nothing. He can get a job and work for what he wants. Maybe if he gets a taste of what it's REALLY like to try and support himself on pathetic wages he might reconsider what he wants in life.
Then of course I'd take him to be drug tested. No child of mine will be a drop-out, drug addict and criminal! I'd make sure he knwe exactly how I felt about it and what the costs of that life will be to him, even if it meant locking him up in a rehab myself.
2006-08-29 10:56:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any mother doesn't want their kid to tell them those words. But the truth is that they really aren't much of a kid anymore, but still need their moms. What he needs is his mom to listen to him, and really think about what he wants. Dropping out of school is never an option but try to help him through it. Maybe give him a little more space, and let him do some things that he wants so he knows that you really were listening and that you know he is unhappy. He needs you though, so find small ways to make your relationship grow. Even if it's doing a small thing like hanging out with him for 10 minutes. But really listen and act to his feelings so he knows you care.
2006-08-29 10:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by Casey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will get over it. Stand your ground and don't let him drop out. He might be mad at you for the time being but he will thank you in the long run. Most teenagers go through the "hate my parents stage" I would just let him know that you love an care about him and only want the best for him and that dropping out of highschool will signifigantly change his life for the worse. If it's something about his highschool in particular he hates maybe you could transfer him to another, but do not let him drop out.
2006-08-29 10:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assure him that I love him. I would tell him that I don't exept his behavior. I would assure him that dropping out of school is not a good choice. But I will respect his decisions. When he comes crawling back to me for help because he can't get a job and doesn't know the important things in the adult life, I will remind him that he made the decision to drop out of school to see what happens. If he still doesn't care, I will never disown him for as long as I live. If he doesn't want a relationship with me anymore, that's his choice. You can't force someone to love you or have a relationship with you but you can SURELY let them know that your love will always be there for them if they like it or NOT!
2006-08-29 11:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. YOu are a great mother for not letting him drop out of school and one day he will thank you. I wouldn't let my son get a tattoo and now he thanks me so much for it and realizes how stupid it would have been, but boy, was he mad. It's not okay for him to abuse you though and if he talks to you like that, he should be grounded.
If you want him to stay in school, come up with a reward for him staying in school, like a car or something that he wants if he stays in school. Sugar works best.
2006-08-29 10:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are a very fit mother because you wont let him drop out of school. Tell him that you are a WONDERFUL mother and you care enough about him to not let him drop out of school.
Tell him that one day you hope his anger will be understanding.
Teenagers are hell, I was a HORRIABLE teenager to my parents....hope it doesnt come back 3 fold.
Good Luck.
2006-08-29 22:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by Natasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would continue to make him go to school, and ignore the stuff he said like that. Teenagers are going through so many emotional/hormonal changes they don't think right! I'd keep telling him I loved him, and be there for him when he needed me.
2006-08-29 10:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by nameizmel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I admit it would hurt but I'd tell him to deal.. If he thinks it's so bad he can call child services & find a new home. I guarantee no matter where he goes he'll still ahve to go to school. He'll grow up & realize you were right & if he doesn't then it's his loss. Good luck
2006-08-29 11:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by mamabens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn to him say to him im doing this because i love you and if you cant understand now you will wen you are older, and then i suggest you let him think about that for a while tell him how people live when they dont carry on with their education, maybe take him to people that live in slumber he willl soon change his mind, i know that i would if i knew the consequenses of not following on with my education. gd luck
2006-08-29 10:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if it is hard, try to offer love and reassurance to him. He needs it from you now more than ever!
in regards to the previous answer: It is not the law to go to school - you just have to register as a homeschooler.
2006-08-29 10:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by sheila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋