who also lives 2 hours away. We love each other very much and he has hinted that he may someday relocate to live with me. My question is the age difference a big deal?
What are the issues you all have experienced?
2006-08-29 10:40:46 · 20 answers · asked by trueheart_insacramento 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't see any problems for the moment. Only you can tell if you have enough in common to make it last ...say when you near 60.
2006-08-29 11:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 42 and he's 32 - we've been together for a year. He's not an average 32 yr old - very mature in most ways for his age. Has already gotten several degrees, works two jobs, very honest, affection and trustworthy. The two issues that really do come up (and this may not matter until you live together) are: he is absolutely addicted to credit cards (that God our finances are separate!) and 2. He has no concept of why a woman cries. He doesn't respond by giving me a hug. It makes him very uncomfortable and he thinks its because I'm mad at him. What confuses me about the latter is that he was raised by his mother and has sisters. Surely, he has seen a woman cry out of sadness before right? Anyway, when I was 32 I married a guy that was 21 and it was one of the worst mistakes of my life. I think since you're both older than 30, the age difference might not cause as many problems as it would if say he was 21 but I guarantee as the relationship progresses you will notice issues that are due to the age difference. Just make sure he's mature enough to handle his own life so that he doesn't come to rely on you in a "mommy" sort of way. I wish you the best
2006-08-29 10:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by pamela f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age should not be a big deal. As long as you both love each other. Age is only a number. I have a really good friend that has been married to her husband for 22 years now. She is 12 years older than him. They are very happy and they both say age should have nothing to do with it. All that matters is that you are happy and your boyfriend has no problem with it. Other wise no big deal. Enjoy life.
2006-08-29 10:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you are looking to get out of the relationship. If you are hoping for a partner for the rest of your lfie, then I think the age issue will matter to him, if not today, then 5-10 years from now.
I would enjoy what you have, but don't hold much hope for a long future.
2006-08-29 10:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Gin Martini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 10 years older than my husband. At first it really bothered me, and I tried to find a way to break up with him. But he kept reassuring me that age didn't matter to him one bit.
Now, age isn't an issue at all for either one of us. Don't let what others think or say keep you away from someone you love. It he were older than you, no one would think twice about it. And our marriage is absolutely wonderful!
Congratulations on finding someone you love!
2006-08-29 10:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as theyre legal(and mature), and its a healthy relationship, then age shouldnt really matter. Personally I wouldnt go over 10 years, but everyone's different.
2016-03-27 00:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom and step-dad, who have been happily married since 1988, are 11 years apart, so I don't see any concern. Just live your life, make yourself happy, and forget about tradition and norms. People evolve, cultures evolve, and the age gap between spouses is getting wider by the year.
2006-08-29 10:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by pacerslover31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is with a lady 9 years older than him and they have been together 7 or 8 years. They are both happy. He tended to be immature and I did worry that it would be a relationship where she would be "in charge" because of his immaturity, but it has worked out very well for them. Good Luck, hope it works for you also.
2006-08-29 10:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by tobinmbsc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this time..... I don't think it matters. Enjoy yourself and have fun. But in 10 yrs when your close to 60 yrs old.....that might present some issues.
In the long run....you might be better off finding a partner closer to your age.
2006-08-29 10:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Go girl !!! The relationship should not depend on age . I 've been with both older and younger men over a lifetime . Age never mattered to me or them .
2006-08-29 10:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he likes the sex and drives 2 hours for it I'm sure he has someone younger on the side if age is not the difference yet it will be as time goes on i know you don't like the answer just being honest sorry
2006-08-29 10:48:46 · answer #11 · answered by john w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋