I have this guy that I like a lot. Although Iv'e Known his brother for a while Iv'e only known him for about a month. Im really feeling him he is so sweet, respectful, sexy, smart and I know he likes me almost as much as I like him. The thing about it is I know that he is not ready or looking for a relationship for a while. He asked me if I could help him buy a car, basically loan him some money. Friends may call me dumb for even thinking about it, but in a way I do want to help him. He claims he is and not going to use me. I need to know wheather I should help him or not and if you guys think he will change after iv'e given him money?
2006-08-29 10:34:24 · 12 answers · asked by black beauty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He basically wants to know if I can lend him like 1000$ He said by him having a car he can be able to come see me more and do more stuff for me.
2006-08-29 10:44:00 · update #1
He doesn't want me to co- sign on a car he wants me to give him some money so that he can buy one off of the streets.
2006-08-29 11:07:06 · update #2
well first of all what is a person you only know for a month, doing asking you for money That is a shame. Don't think that by helping him it will bring you together. Girl look he's not asking you for cab money or something like that the guy is taking advantage because he knows that you like him. He's already established he doesn't want to be in a relationship he just wants to play. If he even had some type of feelings for you he would snatch you before somebody else and not leave an open door. How do you even fix your mouth to ask someone you barely know for a car. I say leave him alone before you get your feelings hurt.
2006-08-29 11:23:35 · answer #1 · answered by A B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend not loaning any money. Nothing good can come from it. What will you do if he doesn't pay you back? Sue? Then if he doesn't pay you back it may be hard for you and his brother to be close. Your friend (the Brother) will feel weird even though he did nothing wrong. It's a lose-lose situation. There are too many negatives that outweigh you trying to be a good friend. Stay a great friend and don't lend the money.
2006-08-29 17:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by ecmcr699 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!! Lending a friend a few bucks is one thing but a car is a whole other matter! If he finances and you co-sign on the loan he could stop making payments for what ever reason and it would ruin your credit.
Tell him you wish you could but you aren't in the position to help him that much.
2006-08-29 17:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kristie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really tough one. I know where you are coming from, I have been there before.
Maybe your best option, since you have known his brother for awhile, is to ask him his opinion on the situation.. He should know better than anyone if his brother will be honest about what he is doing. If you can't take that route, you must make a decision using your instincts. If you are doing it to try and make him like you more, that is not a guaranteed thing.. Don't get yourself hurt like that by doing something kind for someone else. I wish the best for you on this situation
2006-08-29 17:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by OnE GiRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you should, but if you must, have him sign a paper, explaining the agreement of the loan, and how much you want him to pay, you each month, and if he does not you can take the car, and sell it to get your money. This has nothing to do with your friendship. This is business.
2006-08-29 17:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!! Why can't he go take a mortage or a loan or getting help from his family but instead he ask you??? I've been in that situation before and it really turn up bad with the person giving just 50% back....
2006-08-29 17:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying that you never loan money to friends.
I realize this man is not your friend, but you seem to want to have a relationship with him.
If you want to gift him the money, that's great; otherwise, let him go to a bank.
2006-08-29 17:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by Zack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he ask you for this assistance? How is he going to repay you? How much money is involved? Better to not loan him the money. Credit causes amnesia!!
2006-08-29 17:44:04 · answer #8 · answered by surething_78504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've only known him a month and hes' asking for money sounds a little fishy to me
2006-08-29 17:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by JWS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he ask you for the money? No don't do it, let him get responsible and handle it on his own.
2006-08-29 17:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by metalicgirl69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋